Are Bullies made like it from their early experience or are they born like it?

Question

I think they are made like it from having a broken family or violent parents etc etc

Answer 1

That's not a bad assessment.
I have found in 56 years of living that most bullies a really sacred to death and attempting to hide it through intimidation and coercion.

Answer 2

bad experiences can certainly provoke people towards the bad decisions which lead to becoming a bully but those same experiences can for another person lead them another way.
Its about making choices how to respond, unfortunately often decisions are made about how to respond to bad experiences at a time when that person is often damaged,vunerable and ill equipped to appreciate the path that those decisions will lead them down.
Because bullying is a behavioural choice, all be it a complex one, it can be reversed and bully's do not have to remain that way for all their lives if the circumstances and the environment and the will is there to enable change it can happen.

Answer 3

From their own bad experiences...they may not even be very early on in life. But I wouldn't say that being from a broken home would make you a bully, I'm from a broken home and I didn't turn out like that.

Answer 4

They are made when their parents fail to make them secure and kind children.

I don't necessarily believe that "broken families" create bullies if what you mean by "broken family" is divorced parents; because a divorced/separated family doesn't necessarily have to be "broken".

I don't think, either, that it takes serious violence to create a bully. It can be a father who acts like a bully verbally and who teaches his kid to be like that as well.

The father who makes his son feel belittled if he doesn't act rough and have bravado will get a bully because his son will feel small, while at the same time copying his father's behavior, and - voila - you have a bully who wants to be the belittler of someone littler rather than be the belittled.

Answer 5

Most bullies I've met have been from so called good families. They've used to getting everything they want and never taught any respest or empathy for anyone. I sort of think that all kids are possible bullies, but what is taght at home prevents them from becoming ones.

Answer 6

I think they are made like it, maybe they don't feel loved or they crave the attention, or maybe it's simply boredom.
I don't think it's a bad family, but just that the parents teach them to stand up to themselves and the kids can't quite get the difference.

Answer 7

Nature or nurture - eh? The chances are they are born that way and then if those tactics yield results then use those tactics throughout their lives - it isn't something that should be permitted from school to work. They should be kicked out of positions of power.

Answer 8

They are born retarded.