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My friend has recently split up with her partner. And she has asked me to move in with her and their son. Problem is that her ex and my ex are best friends and hate the fact we are still friends after the break ups. Her ex has sworn to make my life and hers as difficult as possible if I move in. He wants them to get back together but she does not want too. I'm not sure why he has such a problem but I think that by me moving in it will make the break up permanant and he doesnt want that to happen. I really want to move in, but I dont know if it a good idea. My friend tells me not to worry and she wont let him come in and cause problems, but he has to maintain contact with her because they have a child together. I'm not just concerned about myself but worry that my presence will affect the relationship between him and his son. What so you guys think?

2007-01-20 23:32:03 · 6 answers · asked by Belinda B 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

6 answers

NO - do not move in with your friend!

You will not have a life of your own - you'll be in the middle
of the storm in that household.

Your friend will have to deal with her ex on her own.

You can support her if she needs you - but keep your life
separate from hers.

2007-01-20 23:39:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1 0

Boy, I think that this is a tough one, given the implications. If you don't move it only because of his dislike of the idea, he would still be exercising control which is just what he wants; on the other hand, I would take his threats seriously. Just how intense a guy is he? Does his ex have grounds for a restraining order? Don't see why he should get his way, but consider the worst case scenario and take preventive measures to counter it. Good luck.

2007-01-21 07:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by ElOsoBravo 6 · 0 0

Better friends, that don't live together! This is one of the truest sayings I know! No matter how much you bite your tongue for sake of friendship, YOU will always be the bad guy. Esp. it being her place already. If friends do move in together, I think you have better chance if you both find a new place, together... no one has more dominice than the other, at least. But always remember.... "better friends, that don't live together!"

2007-01-21 07:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by j 1 · 1 0

I will assume there is a financial aspect to the move also. He may be trying to keep her dependent on him. Move in and let him watch from the cold outdoors.

2007-01-21 08:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0 0

I think you need to make this real simple and mind your own business and stay out of this dysfunctional situation. I can tell you that you will be the one out in the cold and loose everything in this one. Stay where you are and let your friend work out her own life......Geeeesh!

2007-01-21 07:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you should not as you have 2X relationship from both side. Ofcourse I can move with any 3x anywhere any time...lol

2007-01-21 07:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by SNI 2 · 0 0

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