we've got 2 beautiful little girls (aged 2 and 1) and i've just found out that i'm pregnanat again.
my husband and everyone thinks it will be far too much to handle as it is hard enough with the2 we have now.
i really dont know what to do. i mean i would crack up whether i carry or not but i know i could never get over it.
i just dont know what to do and i keep crying all the time because i know notto carry would probably be best.
i have tosay 'not to carry' because i cant say the other
2007-01-20 22:34:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it will work. but you will be busy for a few years
2007-01-20 22:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by conan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time I got pregnant, I thought I was going to die. I went to the library and found a book on abortion and one about childbirth. I lost that baby at 4 months. I got pregnant again a year later and I carried her to term. I did not see her coming as I was supposedly protected that time too. You are not given more than you can handle. You will find a way to make this work. I have nothing bad to say about parents who choose a different path. I am also glad you have made the choice to have this baby. Get an IUD as soon as you give birth as they last 10 years and leave very little hormone in your body. Don't be sad. It will work out like everythihng else.
2007-01-20 22:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by daisyjzmum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you're feeling so dreadful about your pregnancy - but I think you have already decided in your own mind what the answer has to be. You could not live with yourself if you aborted the pregnancy - so you have no choice but to carry the child to term. And once it's born - you're not going to be able to give it away are you? I know that at the moment looking after small children feels like a life-sentence - but it does pass - they do grow older - and in retrospect much faster that you could possibly believe when you're mired in baby sick, dirty nappies and broken nights.
Forget what other people say - listen to your heart, and believe that you will cope (but you might want to re-evaluate your contraception method!).
I wish you all the very best.
2007-01-20 23:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy_Madeleine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well remember theres always the possibility to give your baby up for adoption. Although that may be very hard because you may have felt you had bonded with your baby while you were pregnant and then not want to let him/her go. Whatever you do don't let other people persuade you into doing anything because you'll regret it for the rest of your life. If you think you can handle another baby and give it as much love as possible then you will be fine! and im sure everyone around you will support you. Do what feels right.
2007-01-20 22:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by just_a_metaphor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Proffesionally, it would be acceptable to look after all three. I'm a nursery nurse, and for children under 2, there is a legal requirement to have a ratio of one adult to three children. This means that if you sent your littlies to nursery, the would be looked after by one adult. It will be hard, but you are capable of doing this, you can raise them well. I know it is heartbreaking to think about the other option, and that seems to suggest that you wouldn't be able to get over it. LIsten to your heart - you are a loving mother and it will be hard work, but you can do it. I've known ladies who have had 3 or 4 babies in quick sucsession, it can be done! Good luck xx
Just wanted to say, try and stay strong - you need to make the right descision for YOU and your daughters. Don't let anyone pressurise you - take as much time as you need to think about this, don't rush in to a descision. It might help to talk to someone outside of the family, you can always ask your doctor to refer you to someone to talk to x
2007-01-20 22:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have to talk seriously about this with your husband and come to a decision, which you can both live with. If you are deadly sure that neither of you can cope then you are left with two options aren't you?
1. Put the child up for adoption 2. Abortion
I am sorry if this sounds harsh but only the two of you can make this decision, and it is one that must not be made lightly.
2007-01-20 22:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you should do what you feel is best. honestly, i could never kill a child, but if you feel that your unborn child will be neglected or mistreated because you dont have enough time for it then its not the right move to have it. but if you think that you can find time and you would love to have another baby then definatly have the child. think of the child and not so much as people around you.
2007-01-20 22:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is true that it is far too much, but since you are the parents you are responsible in everything that you will do.
also being a parent, you should also know how to plan a family.. it is not the fault of the child in you, but it is your husband and your fault.
that is the consequences for not being a responsible couple.
2007-01-21 00:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by labs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO for it believe me its a blessing in disguise. Its going to be hard for a while but you can do your not the only one and you wont be the last. good luck. Any way you might have a boy this time.
2007-01-21 01:11:39 · answer #9 · answered by l.a. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is a terrible thing. Dont go there. Have your baby. Its going to be a big blessing. You have no right to kill. Termination of pregnancy is murder in Gods eyes. Dont go there it is soul destroying and you will have regrets for listening to others. DO what is right in Gods eyes for your own good.
2007-01-20 23:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy mama. First rememebr you are tremendously blessed. How many couples pray for a child??? Find it in yourself to give back to your children, your precious gift. Obviously you can do it you already have two. Hang in there mama.
2007-01-20 22:46:17 · answer #11 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋