I live in Colorado and he lives in Toronto. I honestly think that we would be more than friends if we lived closer...at least in the same country!! My lease ends in Feb and I am currently seeking employment. I have nothing to tie me down here in CO (no family, no job...) I'm sure you know where this is going...Is it wrong for me to be considering relocating to Canada to see where things might go with him? I cherish our friendship and would accept it if that's as far as it goes...but I feel the need to find out.
2007-01-20 21:58:55 · 10 answers · asked by julesnsybil 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk to him a bout it and see what he thinks.
If you want to move to Canada, unless you already have status there, you will have to go through the immigration process. It will cost you about $1,200 in fees and other costs, and take 1-2 years, unless you find an employer willing to sponsor you, then it might take less time possibly. Info here: http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/
2007-01-20 22:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask him a somewhat geographically-related question, such as "What's it like working in Toronto? I'm thinking of getting some international work experience."
You won't be directly asking him anything to do with deepening the friendship to something else, and you wouldn't be pressuring any commitments upon him.
If he seem excited to help you out, and likes the idea of you being in the same general area, then there may be hope. At least you'll be giving the friendship a chance to become a better friendship, if nothing else.
If he's negative toward the idea, then that's probably sign enough for you.
2007-01-20 22:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by W Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go into it knowing you might just be able to spend time with a great friend and nothing more, and can fully accept it. Then go. You only get a few good (true) friends in your life, and, even if it wasn't your crush driving you, I would say go and have some fun with someone you care about greatly. You only live once. I spent about a decade off and on including being room-mates with the best friend I will ever have, now she is with someone living in a different state, and those times will never come again. Appreciate them when you can, follow your heart, and you will live with the least regrets.
2007-01-20 22:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by just another guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead!
You're young and you have dreams about your future. And if there's anyone that can make your dreams happen, it's you yourself! Not in a million years will your best friend voluntarily move to Colorado out of the blue, so if you really really feel like taking this a step forward, relocating to Canada is a good idea!
HOWEVER, I have a suggestion. You can visit him for 2 weeks and see how you guys click face-to-face. Then, weigh the pros and cons and decide if you definitely want to relocate and live there.
Good luck babe!
2007-01-20 22:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by vintageprincess72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are easier ways than leaving the Country. You HAVE to have some idea or vibe from him as to his feelings. If when together there are NO signs, or flirtatious moments started by him, that is 1 clue. If no discussions initiated by him about a future together, even if sarcastic, clue #2. If he USED to talk like that, and IF you 2 have, ummmm, you know, KNOCKED IT OUT!, and now he stopped any talks of the kind, that is #3. Have you mentioned moving to CAN to him? Did he say things like, "oh, it's too cold there. You wouldn't like it". If so, you know what number comes after #3. Yep, clue #4.
2007-01-20 22:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by degroove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 21:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving across International borders to pursue a romantic relationship with someone who sees you as a "friend" is perilously close to Stalker Behavior.
If you really wnat this man, you need to come to him as an equal. That means you should get a career, a degree (if possible) and grow up a little.
If you run to him now, with no job, no money, and only your "love" to pay bills with, then he's going to eventually see you as a liability instead of a partner.
2007-01-21 01:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might help but as soon as a person treats you only as a friend it will stay as it was
2007-01-20 22:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might , but you need to be careful it could also ruin the friendship
2007-01-20 22:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How lucky is your friend!
good luck for both of you
2007-01-20 22:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋