Is the break up a marriage still a social stigma for women in India?

Question

No matter how educated or progressive we think we are, a lone woman with the status of a divorcee is still eyed as " available ". She is either given a sympathetic shoulder or is looked upon as characterless. She cannot be treated as a normal individual, or I may say that I have come across very few people who can look at you minus the bias.
Should we not as mature human beings respect choices of others made in thier personal lives, the situations of which we are not fully aware. It is the individuals prerogative to take his call on relations in his/her life & we must keep it at that. Lets try & rise above these social dogmatic views of the lone woman & just let her live her life her way.

Answer 1

Unfortunately whatever you say is right & shows the double standard of our Indian society of today, at one place we call our self advance & try to follow the western way of life but at the sometime we treat a divorcee lady as "available" as you call it. It is unto the younger generation of today to come forward and behave in a more refined manner, give due respect to all ladies whether married or divorcee & let them lead a dignified life as any common person. Divorcee is also a human who needs our full cooperation as any other person & not be taunted for her such status as no lady go for divorce just for the sake of freedom in life but because of certain reasons that she is unable to continue her married life. So what if she is divorcee that does not make her socially untouchable this approach is most unwanted & should be avoided by all. Such a situation can happen in any family & if god forbid it happens with our sisters or daughters how bad we will feel if other people treat our sisters & daughters as a piece of "available" item.!!!!!

Answer 2

No its not... But break up in marraige is not so much enjoyable to people anywhere in the world. That is the reason why some couple reunite later on. Break ups or divorces are just like allopathic medicines providing you relief from the symptoms but the root of the desiease stays. And the roots of break ups or divorces are basically ego of the couple and the the fact that they are not capable of managing their personal affairs.

There are a lot of couples who accept themselves as on single person in two different bodies. And, there are other couples who feel that each of them has his/her own life where the other needs not interfare. The marraige success ratio of the first kind of couple is more than the second kind....

I am from India and have seen few couples after break up. but never ever had taht kind of feeling towards the women invloved in the break ups. Neither have I herad anyone who knows the woman talk **** about her.

Answer 3

Of course it depends on where she is living. In major cities you meet divorced women all the time and it doesn't seem to be that big of a deal anymore. I have met many upperclass women on their second marriages and I have bet many lowerclass women on their second marriages. Divorce seems to be hitting every community and every social circle. Of course the families still take it hard, I think - but that is true in the US as well.

Answer 4

no,i don't agree,in modern India divorcee woman is not looked down upon or ill treated,they are part of our society living and enjoying their life as they want,its just some part of India still in the old pedals that's why,this doubt.

Answer 5

Yes. I agree with you. But in big cities where people are busy with their own lives no one cares if their neighbour or collegue is a divorcee, a single or married.

Answer 6

i agree with you. its just that somewomen r secured being a divorcee thats hardly even 1%. rest all our unsecured and go through nightmares full of pain and agony. we need to change ourselves.

Answer 7

oops.. but yes.
No explanation bcoz every indian knows this fact !

Answer 8

one can only change your self..