Whats the difference between verbal abuse and saying something you don't mean when you're angry?

Answer 1

verbal abuse is constant, you're always saying mean and hurtful things to the person to put them down and make them feel bad without any regard. But when in anger you might say something you don't mean and let it go. For example you might say you hate someone out of anger and then once calmed down you're nice to them and it shows that you didn't mean it. Someone who say hateful or mean things all the time without an apology or any remorse is verbally abusive.

Answer 2

Verbal abuse is deliberate. It can be so deliberate that it happens all the time and is the habit of the person who is the one verbally abusing someone. The verbal abuser has either formed the habit of verbally abusing someone or is just a mean person to begin with.

Saying something you don't mean is an accident. For example, it is only happening when you are angry, when you're emotions are stirring, and you cannot control what you are saying.

Answer 3

Verbal abuse can be worse than physical abuse sometimes. Think of it - you break a bone -it heels. When someone starts battering you with mean names or says mean things to you - you never forget them. And when they keep battering you with these names and words day after day - you start to believe them. And a push is NOT JUST A PUSH. First the push, then the shove and then the punches. Honey - the signs are all there - you are chosing to ignore them and you are going to get hurt one day. He says if you don't like it leave? I would leave - I would run for my life. Find somewhere safe to stay and don't let him know where you are. If you marry him you are going to get hurt bad. Please get yourself some help and don't make the mistake of thinking he will get better - they don't - they get worse. You could lose your life with an abusive man like this. Good luck.

Answer 4

The exact same thing could be said, whether it's verbal abuse or a silly remark in anger.

The difference is intent and reason.

Verbal abuse is normally premeditated, deliberate and is specifically directed at a person to invoke pain.

Saying something in anger is an emotional reaction that's not planned in advance and is said because someone is angry, feels hurt, is upset or feels confused.

So one is deliberate and spiteful, the other is reactionary and probably not a true feeling.

Answer 5

When we are angry we say things to hurt the other peron as a reaction to an unpleasant situation......verbal abuse is when someone just says hurtful things at any given time........in other words ....they don't need an excuse to say something hurtful.....it's part of their personality to be that way.

Answer 6

I am not sure there is any difference. Your partner was wrong to call you what he did and he ought to be ashamed of himself.

Perhaps you do feel able to understand and forgive him in the circumstances, which you know better than anyone else, but in your shoes I don't know if I could.

Essentially, whatever the background, your partner took out his frustration on you, when you should be the last person in his world to become his scapegoat. My partner is under enormous stress due to work and other factors, but he's a real man (the best I've ever met) and would never speak to me as your partner used to you.

Your partner needs to realise the magnitude of what he's done - it has threatened the foundation of your relationship and it is he, not you, who needs to be agonising over this.

Answer 7

, Verbal abuse is deliberate and calculating and said with the intention of hurting someone.Words spoken in anger are thoughtless but are usually built up tension ,the best way to handle this is to speak rationally about problems before they blow out of all proportion,comminication is the only way discuss your worries.

Answer 8

The fact that you ask shows that really you know.
You can apologise when it is not meant...though we ought to try to control our anger so it does not happen TOO often
Attacking somebody intentially is a totally different ball game, isn't it?

Answer 9

Verbal abuse is like, "You toerag, you slag!" Whereas saying something like, "I hate you, you never compliment me on my cooking!" is just being angry.

Answer 10

not alot as both usually involve heat of the moment but the way out/correct the situation is to apologise QUICKLY as the longer it goes on the harder to get sorted

good luck