Me and my husband separated after 7 years of marriage. It has been almost 2 years and neither one of us wants to be the one to end it by filing for divorce. Can someone please explain to me what is going on and what should I do?
2007-01-20 20:46:41 · 18 answers · asked by ladybug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just do it... You cant be in a standoff for ever over it, and what happens if you meet someone and want to marry them? One of you are going to have to be the bigger person and finish it for both your sakes...
2007-01-20 22:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and get out of his life. Unless you both are getting some sadomachositc pleasure from living apart and being married then let him off of the hook and set him free. There are enough things and women in the world that I am sure that since neither wants to reconcile or concentrate any efforts to the family unit as it was intended the I would not see the benefit of the union. If you are not going to adhere to what you told him when you married him then get out of his life and let him go on. It is too short for quitters those that think that holding marriage over someones head will keep them. Both need to either put it together as adults and extend the effort necessary to complete what you started in the beginning or put it in the trash.
2007-01-21 15:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the real question is......do you still have feelings for each other? If neither wants it to end.....then maybe there is still some room for relationship repair.....if on the other hand one of you wanted to get on with your life and couldn't care less about the other then you'd be the first to file for divorce. You should get together and see what the heck is going on. Then if you are really over it then sign those papers and get on with your life.
2007-01-20 21:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to file for divorce and get on with your life. Why are you still waiting around after 2 years. It is over, move on.
2007-01-20 20:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by sexyladyinak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless you are still actively with this person as a couple then i dont understand why you or your spouse would not get some resolution I mean divorce is bad enough as it is but to postpone one If you arent a couple anymore and havent been one for 2 yrs than how are you benifiting from being together,you need some closure I mean you couldnt move on if you wanted to.you made a decision when you got married make a decision now get back together or end it man its the only healthy thing to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-20 23:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm in a similiar situation...see Ladybug if you have both tried to make it work and it's not working then you have to move on..you have to make the first step..I've asked mines for a divorce but he's been dragging his feet so I have to make the first move. But if you still got lovejones for him I would not do it too quickly..if he's with another woman then move quickly. Make a list of qualities you really want in a mate...ask yourself does he fit those qualities...it may not be a perfect fit but try to say to yourself does he really deserve me and do I deserve better? separating is not easy....being by yourself is not easy...but you begin to learn to live with yourself; and even if you start to date again there is nothing hanging over your head.
2007-01-21 00:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems as if no one wants to end it or restore it, but eventually someone is going to decide one way or the other. i would have a talk with him see where his heart is at. if it isn't with u, than it may be time to divorce him so u can move on with your life.
2007-01-21 00:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can think of is that u feel as long as you're still married you can do what ever u want without having to worry about taking about marriage with whoever you're with.
2007-01-21 02:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by oldokie1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about kids? Any? Don't stay together for them, as they easily will sense tention, as it will grow and grow. You will blame each other for the rest of your miserable lifes, that you could have 'moved on if I didn't stay in this for you'.(the partner, not the kids) Its VERY easy to settle, and settling is not getting you what you paid for.'Paid for' is simply your wants and needs. If not getting those, and not getting divorced, each will eventually go look for it elsewhere.
2007-01-20 21:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by degroove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you wait for a sign from god . its time to put the cup down and move on go to the court house and file to end this fake married that way peter pan can go back to never land
2007-01-20 22:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋