apologies to those who can't understand abbreviations-did so to try put in as much detail as possible!if u read it u will c the pc is in kitchen which is main room where i am most of time.some good thoughts&advice tho,thanks to u all.i'm worried she has unresolved issues over split with her dad-at5yrs old i took her&her sis(now9) away from a potentially dangerous situation-he was sporadic&inappropriate in contact(got into HARD drugs&drink)-has stepdad now&another sis aged2.had financial crisis last year-stepdad made redundant-no work4 6months-had to stop some of more expensive pasttimes/sports etc-lots of stress-evicted by landlord due to redundancy-now moved&got new job(i work p/t whilst re-training) just a month after she went2high school.i spend as much time as poss with all3 girls/lots of hugs&chats-but she's very reluctant to talk back in much detail.she's a great girl,very kind&thoughtful, except recently at school been acting up etc.am worried,dont know what2 do-counselling??
2007-01-20 20:28:03 · 7 answers · asked by hedgewitch 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Yes, absolutely counseling. Don't let it go like my parents did. I too was a troubled teen and ended up being an even more troubled adult. You can't be too cautious, this is your baby. Do what ever it takes to get her back on track.
I am a well adjusted 37 year old woman now and I wish my Mom had worried as much as you are.
I don't fault her for that anymore. We get along well and I love her despite whatever she did or didn't do. Your daughter will too. Mark my words she will appreciate all you do to help her when she is matured. Keep in mind that could be another 15 years from now. You will worry about her for the rest of her life.
2007-01-20 20:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound good.. but it's not the end of the world... you know that your kids have had a lot of upheaval recently and it's normal for them to "act up"...
It's worrying but you just have to be very frank and open about the implications of what she has put up on the net... you don't need to use puritanical methods or complete shock tactics .. just be honest and practical. Let her know that you are worried about it and tell her why... I'm sure she knows how much you love her. Just let her know that this is a concern... but that some fun and flirting can be okay.
You probably know it already, but it's not possible to force anything on kids of that age .. so give her some space and freedom and just let her know that she can trust you.
Counselling should be the last option ... it may seem to her like you are trying to control her too much. Go for balance and I really hope things all work out good for you all.
2007-01-22 07:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by tattooed.dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its a normal think to use bebo my sister who is 14 years younger than me also use it i know she isn't meant to but my mum also found out and went crazy, so i had her round to stay and asked her what was going on for my own piece of mind (shes my baby sister) and she told me that all her friends use it, i also asked her why she was being so bad at home, she told me she just wanted o grow and she felt my mum was keeping her a baby still (when all it is was she still is a little girl).
I think kids have to grow up really early now things that girls talk about now shock me I'm only 25 and she knows more about the world than i did when i was 16. Its not because she hangs out with wrong people or my parents don't love her, its just the way the world is now. I have a 3 year old little boy and he is my world i know how hard it is to give them one one on one time when you work, they go to school, you have to cook, clean and look after everyone and i only have one i think you should try and have a little 1 on 1 time with her and hopefully she will talk to you again
All the best and good luck
2007-01-21 21:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you need to do is spend more time with the girl. One of one time with each of them is a good thing. I know you might have a lot of problems and what not but it'll go away soon. with all of the trouble the child might think that it's her fault that it all had happened. So tell her that it's not her fault and just talk and spend more time with her. at least once or twice a week you should take your children to the park. Well, good luck
2007-01-20 20:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by A Flower for a SIn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 21:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for you...not a parent who is being nosey for the sake of it...because you care..right?..i am 36 with a 4 year old son and we are happy and healthy (thank god..was a close call on my part)...i had an 'idealistic' upbringing..i wanted for nothing..always knew i was loved a great deal (and still am) but still ended up addicted to drugs (the hard stuff) for 12 years...your daughter will pull thro...kids are sturdy..it was NOTHING to do with my family with regards to the drugs...it was a spin on the wheel of fate..a nasty woman beater of a man who started me on that road...just never let your love falter (i do not think you will)..if i had not had the love and support of m family i would be dead or in prison by now..not bringing up my beautiful son...and i know see how the love of my parents (my dad is my step dad...so what..he loves me) i would not have pulled thro...your daughter will too...it may not feel like it now...JUST BE THERE FOR HER...ALWAYS....x
2007-01-20 20:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling and just sit her down to talk to her
It is so much better to talk to her about everything
2007-01-21 02:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋