ok ive been with her for 5 years now. we are engaged, it feels right but i know its wrong. all we have in common is sex and, i really don't think shes the one for me but weve been together so long i am afraid ill never find some1 else.. especially some1 else who has her personality. I think if i do break it off then it will take me forever to get over it since we have been together for so long. what do i do and how?
2007-01-20 19:47:32 · 4 answers · asked by Raid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry this question should have been named "Should i"
2007-01-20 19:56:36 · update #1
to the last answer.. i have told her. she is neutral> i tell her everything
2007-01-20 20:13:52 · update #2
You cannot be with someone for 5 years and say that the only thing you have in common is sex. I am very very sure you have plenty in common else you could not have gone 2 years together. You are probably experiencing a boring patch in the relationship which happens in every relationship. See a counseller and with a pen and paper note down the "good" and what you perceive to be the "not so good" points. You will be surprised at the results. Perhaps a short holiday away from each other might help? But remember that most people don't realise the value of their buttocks until they have a boil there...
2007-01-20 20:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by zymzyv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound very young. you would benefit from talking to a mature experienced person about these things. Being alone is not a reason to stay with someone that isnt right for you. If you take away the sex and have little left as far as your relationship, then that is all it is built on. it may hurt when you break up with her, but it will hurt a lot more if you marry, possibly have children and then decide not to be together. If it doesnt feel right....it probably ISN'T.
2007-01-20 19:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love and care for her, set her free from your selfishness (you're holding her bec. of sex & fear of never finding the right one...). you have to be a man to face it this time or you cannot undo the chance anymore. im sorry to say this but you have been selfish all these time to her because to love is to be SELFLESS, can you afford to prolong her agony of not knowing the truth? you surely know that in the end she will discover it somehow. Show that you LOVE her now by being honest with your feelings. your fears are consequences of not telling it in the few years of your relationship, face it like a man.
2007-01-20 20:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mei T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why are you thinking about it?
2007-01-20 19:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by memonikos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋