Someone I care for deeply, has returned to a former girlfriend in spite of the bad treatment he endured from her and despite saying many times, over and over, that he would not go back, that she is an "a--hole". She's a drama queen who took it badly when he left her, even threatened to kill herself.
2007-01-20 19:15:08 · 10 answers · asked by aeh2323 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all your answers. They are nearly equally good so I am leaving it to yahoo voters.
2007-01-21 15:34:33 · update #1
well, he isnt weak, I think its possible that the spark between them didnt disappear......and that... they never really moved on! Love cant disappear overnight, so i guess it still kinda exists between them.
2007-01-20 19:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Kittykaren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By definition-love makes all of us weak. If it didn't, it wouldn't be love. It hurts and it feels wonderful. It strengthens, but it also makes us vulnerable. Even if it's not meant to be or there is just nostalgia or confusing feelings-the only thing you can do as someone who cares about him is to let him figure it out on his own either way. There are trials in every relationship. The separation may be just that, and you may have only heard his side of the story told in anger. You don't want to make this a sticky situation. If they stay together, get married, have kids, etc...and you have taken a position against her, it will create a strain or distance between you and him.
If she really is just psycho and he went back because he is clueless or he felt sorry for her, then it won't be any better than it was before, and he's already shown that he's perfectly capable of making the decision to leave her.
2007-01-21 03:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me the man must be pretty silly not to see the best thing in front of him which is you, obviously you treat him right. He must want the opposite, maybe he is confused and doesn't know what the hell he wants. Maybe he gets turned on treating him bad. I'd make up my mind if I were you because it doesn't sound too good, this woman may still love him, and if they had a somewhat strongish relationship before only they would know what they want from eachother.
2007-01-21 03:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my life... only I married the moron first! Now I learn that she is plotting our divorce so he can go back to her! If I wasn't married, I would kick him out the door. But I am one of the few out there who took my marriage vows seriously, and now I am stuck with a man whose heart is with someone else. Do yourself a favor, if you aren't married to him, cut your losses and just get rid of him. You will always be second fiddle to the drama queen!
2007-01-21 03:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by Maia's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the saying "No one knows where the nose goes when the doors close"?
The thing about relationships is that the only people that know the full details and agreements made amongst the two involved is...the two involved!
Sometimes people have to go through whatever they allow themselves to go through in order to hopefully learn a lesson about demanding better treatment from their partner. Pray he comes to his senses before it's too late.
2007-01-21 03:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by lenise1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, turn around and walk away...you do not want to get in to that mess.
He may be weak and that is not the type of man you want.
Just wait for the next one to come alone.
2007-01-21 03:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves her. The reason he left her is because she treated him bad, but deep down inside he's always been in love with her. There's nothing you can do but move on.
2007-01-21 03:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Speck Schnuck 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a raging co-dependent. Run for your life, girl!
2007-01-21 03:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by Sheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This truly, is a case where 'Advice is useless in matters of the heart'.
You can't spoon feed your friends, they will have to learn for themselves.
2007-01-21 03:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess he didn't learn his lesson the first time around. All that you can do is be there for him when it falls apart again.
2007-01-21 03:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋