I have made a big mistake in my life concerning a woman I care very much about. I am looking for advise.?

Question

I made a big mistake, It was like I walked off the side of the earth and left this woman behind hanging in the breeze. She counted on me and I counted on her for her friendship and love. It was totally uncalled for. I deeply hurt this woman and myself.I have no excuse for my stupity. Now I find my self all alone and no direction to go. Don't know how to approach her or even began to explain my actions. How to you ask for forgiveness even though I am not worthy of it. What a dumba$$ I am. Feel so empty can only imagine how she is feeling. How does a man say I AM SORRY? Please keep the smart as$ remarks to yourself. I relize what I did already so Thanks.

Answer 1

this is tough. if she counted on you, dont ever do it again, or she might completely lose trust in you. this friendship and love she built for you, please dont crush it. she values it as much as you do. you aren't alone because she feels the same way too. what she wants is for you to come up to her and tell her sorry. its amazing how ONE sorry can make a difference. if she's stubborn, then give her some time to think over it before you tell her sorry. im positive that she will forgive you because she knows that your friendship with her is worth it. if she isn't worth losing, then go up to her and don't let her go so easily. a lady always likes when a guy is by her side. and when you're talking to her, look straight into her eyes and hold her so that she'll feel secure and comfort. she'll come back to you again, so don't worry. time solves everything. you can do it! i believe in you.

Answer 2

All you can do is talk to her. Let the drama die down a little so you can both be thinking clearly. And most importantly-be sincere, honest, and make yourself vulnerable. Tell her everything you just told here. Alot of times guys don't want to appear too sensitive, or spend alot of time trying to explain feelings, or put themselves in the position to be rejected. But the thing is-you have a much better chance if you put it all out there. Whether she takes you back or not, you put her in the situation of feeling rejected and vulnerable. So if you love her, show her you are sorry enough to go through the same no matter what the outcome. Your sincerity , honesty, and willingness to humble yourself are the only things that could possibly show her that you know that you are wrong, you are willing to accept consequences for it, and that you won't be doing it again.
I hope it works out for ya man. Give it your best shot. Even if she never wants you back, that won't feel any worse than wondering what would have happened if you had tried.

Answer 3

You sound quite sincere to me. I'm sure this will come thru even more to your girl.

The only way is in person and with all of the respect you have shown in your question. You're an articulate man. If there is forgiveness in the world you're sure to get it from her.

I want to encourage you to do this. I lost my husband of 24 years less than 2 years ago. There is always time to move on but sometimes we only get one chance to go back and start over. I now have a day in my life I can never take back and never make right. He took his own life alone and in despair. I'll never know if I might have been able to stop him. I ache every day for what might have been.

Please go to her and try to make this right. If she has any mercy she'll show it to you. Love is not easy and sometimes it doesn't forgive, but if you don't do this you'll wonder all your life if you walked away when you didn't have to.

We aren't here to be happy. Sometimes we just have to hurt. But when there's a chance for a real person to have the love of another something in the world heals. Be part of that. Don't give up on love.

Gentle thoughts to you, friend.

Answer 4

This is a hard one to answer because no one knows what you did. Maybe if you add some details it would be easier to answer what to say or do about it. But just in case you don't ever do it. I will try my best to answer this for you. I know with my experience even when the man was a piece of **** lying cheating ******* asshole. lol. I still wanted him to say he was sorry and beg for forgiveness. After he did that I would tell him to **** off and and I never wanted to see him again. But really I wanted him to come back and beg and plead and scrobble like the dirty piece of **** pig he was. So, my answer to you is beg, plead, buy flowers act like a little ***** until she forgives you. She may not if what you did was really bad. Or maybe unlike the rest of us she has some self respect and she'll go find someone better that wont treat her like you did. But I'm guessing that she will forgive you with enough attempts. So go spend some money on her and get to begging.

NO! I'm not bitter. I'm actually happily married, but I've gone through a couple of frogs OK allot of frogs, OK one big frog inpaticular.

Answer 5

You first need to ask yourself 'why' you walked away from her!
Then when you know the reason 'admit' it to yourself, and then to her. If you really want to win her back the best way to do it is
be 'totally' honest about everything.
However, she may be so hurt by this that she may not want to see/talk to you, so be prepared that this could happen.
If she 'is' willing to talk to you then thats a good sign.
The best way for you to say you are sorry is 'Tell her you love her'! because it's very obvious that you do! Then ask her to forgive you! I'd even go so far as to get down on my knees and
appologize! I hope things will work out for you.
By the way, don't walk away from someone who really cares about you, or you may 'never' find another who does!

Answer 6

A lot of what you just wrote sounds like a good start. Understand that if you do apologize and she accepts, it may be a long time before things are the same, if they ever are again.

You took some type of risk and it hurt her deeply. Now, what are you willing to risk to try to make ammends to her? It sounds to me though, that she's worth a lot of risk.

So be a man and own up to it. Take responsibility for what you did and accept the consequences. Good luck.

Answer 7

Nothing hurts more than knowing you phucked up....but you should still try to find the "personal" courage to face up and face her. You will do less damage if you confront whatever happened like a mature person. The only way to say sorry, is to take one step at a time, and no matter what, remember it was you who got you where you are. So my suggestion on how to say sorry, is just say I am sorry...let it go from there.

Answer 8

I say try to convince her to build on what was positive in the past and learn why you did what you did. Try to focus the attention on the future. If you left her hanging, try to do everything you can to make her a priority (if she lets you). Just know that it takes a long time to build back broken trust, and let her know you're willing to do whatever it takes no matter how long that is.

Answer 9

I don't know what you did but you should at least ask her if she'd like an explaination. Offer an appology. And be totally honest, but only if she wants to hear it. Don't beg her back because you know you don't deserve it, what ever you did. Maybe the two of you will be able to get this resolved.

Answer 10

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