2007-01-20 18:50:25 · 9 answers · asked by Dr.Ezzat N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on your wife. Different women want different things. But generally and for the most part, you have to show a woman affection. In other ways and other rooms than just missionary sex in the bedroom. To love sex, she has to love you-and know that you love her. Take care of that, and she will have more of a desire to have sex, to please you, and to be pleased.
Make love to her emotionally-and the physical part will come naturally. Think back to dating times. You were probably considerate and affectionate. Think about what YOU had or said or did that made her want you to begin with. The problem is probably not that she just doesn't like sex. It may be more about the fact that alot of married men simply quit trying and started to expect. And there's nothing sexy about that.
2007-01-20 19:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't push her into it. There's nothing worse then a man that just won't quite pushing it. Men don't really understand any of the reasons why most women hate sex. So here's a few answers. We're women and we have hormones that make us act crazy. We can't help it. That's part of who we are. We hate the shape of our bodies especially after having a baby. So I guess you can say we're insecure with our self image. We want to be all those things our husband wants us to be but there's always a hurdle to jump and we can't always make it over.We also hate the fact that when the sex is over, it's not over for us. Do you know what it's like to have that s#*t coming out of you for the rest of the day??? It's misirable. You feel like everyone around you knows what you just did! And you feel like they can even smell it on you. So you have to learn to understand the reasons why your wife doesn't love sex before you can help her to over come the hurdles, and yes you as a man and her husband have to quite thinking about sex as just sex, you have to learn how to show her you want to make love to her and she needs to know you love her no matter what. She needs to know she is beautiful to you and she is the one and only for ever!!!! Sorry to be ruff here but I just think it's time you guys learn to understand. Even if things get better there are still going to be times when her hormones are going to take over and then it's a no win situation. You may want to try flowers from time to time and taking her out to dinner, key word here is "ROMANCE HER."
2007-01-21 03:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're married?
Your days of having sex are over, Johnny.
You can't *make* her love anything, especially sex.
But you are now a member of a very large fraternity. Enjoy the free beer and hot dogs.
2007-01-21 03:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really, you can't MAKE anyone LOVE anything. But you could try changing it up a bit. Do it somewhere unexpected, use toys, do it in the morning or afternoon, just be spontaneous. And most importantly DON'T PUT PRESSURE ON HER TO ENJOY IT! Because that's a total buzz-kill right there. If she feels pressured, then it's going to be worse and worse.
2007-01-21 03:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lil' Niffer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Treat her kindly and with respect OUT of bed. Who wants to be intimate with someone who is mean and rude to them? Give her oral sex until she climaxes. Most women cannot climax through intercourse.
2007-01-21 03:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know anything about your sex life but have you tried getting her off? Then have sex.
2007-01-21 03:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you sound like a winner.
how about taking the time out to spend with her. do romantic things. sex is not wham-bam stuff. foreplay, turn the TV off, etc.
2007-01-21 03:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
do it right
2007-01-24 20:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by LYN p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her to me!!
2007-01-21 03:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋