We have been trying to get pregnant for the last year. However, I get the impression that my husband may have been thinking about leaving me. I feel really sad and lonely. I have tried to ask him about how he feels and he just keeps "blowing me off"
2007-01-20 18:37:01 · 17 answers · asked by sally-ann s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to hear. Sounds like you have been convincing yourself that this was all "planned" --- when it wasn't really, was it? So are you disappointed that your plan to keep him around by being pregnant didn't work? Women's instincts are usually pretty accurate. If you think he wants to leave, then you are probably pretty dead on. You probably lost him a long time ago. Let him go. Hopefully you aren't pregnant and you can start over new.
2007-01-20 19:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you need to do is tell your husband you need to have a talk later. Tell him in the morning and say, "Honey, when you come home from work tonight we really need to catch up on things. I have a few things I need to discuss with you." Give him some time to think about it and register what he wants to say. Men don't operate like women, they take longer to figure out their feelings and thoughts. If he was all for trying to get pregnant in the first place then he has to still have some loving and good feelings for you, right? Try and not think about bad things (like he's thinking about leaving you) because they have a really good way of festering into something they're not.
2007-01-21 02:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lil' Niffer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately guys will agree to have babies because all they hear from it is SEX. My now ex-husband did the same thing. I warned him I could get pregnant an at the time that was fine, no problem. But as soon as I told him I was he started saying I cheated on him and it wasn't his. Even told me to get an abortion. Well, I didn't, a few months later I had our 2nd daughter and she is so great. she now has a daughter of her own and another baby on the way, her dad has been trying to be nice to her but she can't stand him now. He treated her different from her sister and she remembers it. If your going to have a baby good for you, if he doesn't want to stay you can't make him and you don't want to try. You'll be fine and as your baby grows he/she will always remember the love you gave them and your husband will regret his actions and will want to be apart of something he will never be able to regain. Just remember God never closes a door unless there's another one to open.
2007-01-21 02:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is tough to deal with those issues especially if you think it is all your fault. First, go to couples counseling, second, go to your own counselor and learn love yourself and third be happy that you are pregnant and find the support you need to bring this new person into a great environment. If your husband doesn't come around, all you can do is all YOU can do -- try not to get hung up on him -- your baby is worth it.
2007-01-21 02:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been trying to get pregnant for a year that can be very straining on someone to keep getting the neg. answer when they so want a pos. test result. I'll bet that he thinks that he can't get you preg. and feels like he's not a man. If you are preg. I'll bet he'll be happy. It might be an ego thing.
2007-01-21 02:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hooray! Sounds like you have a messy divorce ahead of you. Poor kid. He didn't have a choice. Well lady, you have to make him talk to you. If he won't get your walking papers ready. Go out with some pride. If you stay with some ass it will probablt just as bad, if not worse, for the kid. Either way, your kid isn't going to be right. But most kids aren't these days. Divorces create spoiled a-holes. I am really sorry for what you are going through. I don't mean to sound synical.
2007-01-21 02:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds soar. Be careful he might be scared that it's happening and feel free to seek professional help for this. Stress is a real pain in the rear end.
2007-01-21 02:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that but just think about your baby if your pregnant what if he leaves you? it's hard now to raise a baby by your self butmost of all your baby will hurt inside just to know that his/or her Daddy is not around
2007-01-21 04:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
before u try to do anything silly out of desperation,
go see a doctor to confirm that ur preganant..
then share the joy with him.
if he is unhappy, then u try to go for a holiday alone.coz it helps u think better when u r away from him.u need some space, and he needs some space to think oso.
good luck
2007-01-21 02:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by rinoao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh I Am sorry. that is really horrible> I dont know what I would do.. hmmm, You should telol Him Hey we have a baby on the way and I want to know How you fell about us n the relationship right now.. I mean me and my bf been datn like 13 months now and things are gettin sorta bad.. and it sucks.. I dont know wha to do.. its Just that he doesnt show me that much affection anymore
2007-01-21 02:40:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋