It's a very abusive relationship,at times been physical,cheating,and selfishness.How do I explain in a very sensitive matter that this relationship needs to end?
2007-01-20 18:01:36 · 15 answers · asked by attheendofmyrope 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your friend should be able to see that for herself. When she is ready to leave she will or she will come to you for help. You can say this to her over and over again, it won't make a difference, when she is getting tired of getting her butt kicked she will either wake up and leave or you will be at her funeral.
2007-01-20 18:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to have a lot of patience. Give her reasons and actions her husband has done in the past. Explain to her that she is not helping the situation by staying there and letting this abuse go on. If she doesn't want to listen to you then you are going to have to let time slap her in the face. I had a friend that like yours...she didn't listen much since she wanted her relationship to work, but her husband never changed. Time went by and she got fed up now she is getting a divorce. All I can say is be there and explain to her how many times you have to get her to see the truth.
2007-01-21 02:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tread carefully. Do you think that your friend is not aware that the relationship is abusive? If she is aware, why can't she go out? if she is not aware, what if she tells you that she's fine with the way things are? Has she ever hinted to you that she is unhappy in the relationship? How would you handle her accusing you of interfering in her relationship? These are some of the question you must find honest answers to b4 you could attempt talking to her. But remember: The decision lies solely with her!!!!!
2007-01-21 03:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a hard call, because really it is up to your friend to make up her/his own mind (didnt say if your friend is a man or woman).... You can help them to make an informed decision though, and as a friend you could just say to them -
"look you are my friend, and I would hate anything bad to happen to you.... I am very worried about your situation and I want to help and support you...do you want to talk about it with me....would you like to get some help or see someone confidentially"
That sort of thing... You can only do what you can do, but in truth your friend may be too scared to do anything about it, or they maynot think anyone will help them. Just be there for them and offer help and friendship...BUT I do agree that the person needs to get out of the relationship... Best of Luck!!!
2007-01-21 06:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Eve M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry that your friend is going through such a hard time. But as bad as it is, you just have to be there for her and allow her to get to the point of being so fed up with it that she chooses to leave him on her own. You cant suggest or make someone do something that they are not ready to do. She is just going to have to get tired of it on her own and learn from her own mistakes. Just be there for her when she needs you and support her decisions, even though you dont agree with them. She will reach her stopping point, hopefully soon before he really hurts her.
2007-01-21 02:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be supportive for when they realize that on their own, You can tell them but they won't be listening to it now. You just need to be the best friend you can be so they will turn to you for help. Talk to them about healthy relationships but do not talk about theirs, they will see it if they want a better life.
2007-01-21 02:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer your opinion ONLY when the subject is breached by your friend. It really is none of your business, but she IS your friend. Tell her that you love and care for her, but in your opinion there's little there for her to hold on to. Don't push, don't get emotional; because if you do, it'll seem like you have an agenda. Then, just leave her alone until you are needed. She, like yourself has her own life to lead...you can't live it for her, regardless of how strongly you feel.
2007-01-21 03:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have a friend in a bad relationship and i have told her so many times to leave the guy but she wont.....so basically what i am saying is as a good friend u shld sit down with her and tell her but be aware that chances r high she will listen but wont leave the bastard
2007-01-24 20:35:04 · answer #8 · answered by LYN p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that you care about them very much and that you see what is going on and that you are worried. You can't make your friend end the relationship, but you can offer your support.
2007-01-21 02:06:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Her view of it will be ............. You don't feel he adds up to your man (if you have one) or you want him for yourself.
If you want to help her, then expose her to other couples so that she may see how women should be treated....... (It's a long shot). But a friend is what she needs, not another person disagreeing with her.
in simple.............. she didn't chose this guy based on your decision, nor will she she leave him because of it.
2007-01-21 02:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋