I'm a little embarrassed to come on here and ask but?

Question

Well, first let me say that this is kind of a mature question, so little ones do not read. I can never get hard . The only way i do is if the girl does oral. Is that because I maturbate ALot, which means more than normal?? Or could it be because I sleep with the same girl everytime?? We change it up everytime but it does not work! What could it be?? thanks for awnsers

Ps. Im 25 and I always use protection

Answer 1

Every woman whos guy watches porn biggest fear.
That one day it escalates to this.

What you have done is established a mental block that prevents you from focusing on your girl and requires the porn to stimulate you to the point you need it.
You have to retrain your mind to get stimulated by your girl and not the porn.

What happened is that the ideas the porn gives you is making you lust on experimenting, which causes what your girl does to you to be uneventful in comparison.

Smal efforts -- not cold turkey all at once, try lowering your porn intake.
Or see if the girl would like to incorporate it into your love making.

Whether or not you really are addicted to porn is for you to find out. But all the same, you just have to retrain your brain to react to certain stimuli the way you want it to.
It can be done, if youre willing

I can see ll the women who read this nod their I told you so nod.

Id try staying away from porn and masturbation all together for a few days. Work yourself into a frenzy where even the wind blowing gets you excited.
Then get with your girl. Se if that helps some.
Just dont masturbate as much..save it for her.
Your bodys natural need to reproduce will kick in and soon enough youll be salivating over her curves the way you do those plastic fake chicks that are paid decent money to get into the most uncofmrtable positions that only create unreaslistic fantasies in the men that watch them

Ill be honest, I watch porn when my wifes away.
And when I was younger I saw myself drawn more and more to what porn creates -- UNREALISTIC SEX EXPECTATIONS
you have to realize that as what you se on screen is not what actually happens.
Those actresses are getting paid to do the things they do.

in real life it would be uncomfrtable for them to do what they do, or even down right painful...but thats what they get paid to do..create those images that get guys excited.

I repeat this because hopefully something will snap in your head that wakes you up to realize that sex in the movies is so far from sex in real life, tat you really need to learn to focus on your girl, even though she might not compare physically to the woman on screen or her technique might not be as great as it appears on screen.

So there is hope but just know that you are on a crossroads of losing the enjoyment that sex is meant to be.
And if you dont be careful youre going to lose what sharing physical intimacy is, to what you think it should be by seeing girls who are paid to do anything annd everything just to sell movies and make money

Good luck

Answer 2

It's good you use protection every time. With all the STD's out there some still don't use anything every time. Try not masturbating for a while since it sounds like you have a steady girl and see if that works. I don't think it has anything to do with you sleeping with the same girl every time. I've been married for 18 years and all i have to say is let's have sex and boing...there it goes. So that shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 3

yes, a large part of your problem is that you over masturbate. the question then arises, do you like heterosexual sex? i'd guess the answer is yes, but if it's no, then you ask yourself, am i attracted to men? if yes, then the gay scene may do the trick.

sleeping with the same woman should make sex better, not worse. it's because you grow more and more relaxed and at ease with someone that you know and can talk to. perhaps the two of you should go lingerie, stocking and high heel shopping together...

if you masturbate within two days of being with your lover, you may effectively remove your physical drive for repeated sex with her. i think you should think about addiction. maybe you are addicted to a certain feeling when you masturbate that is not like intercourse. so then, why don't you and your gal do mutual masturbation, prior to sex, as foreplay, together?

but i would say, based on my wizened age and experience, that when you are at the verge of ejaculating, you should stop it, and then proceed to the splendor of intercourse, blowing your wad into her (protected). another thing: if the two of you are loyal to one another and she uses birth control, why do you need the protection? maybe you'd enjoy it more without the raincoat.

since you enjoy oral sex, you should consider giving your lady friend oral to the extent that you are successful in giving her a clitoral orgasm. very few men know how to do that because their bodies are so anxious for satisfaction. but when she shows you where the magic button is, and you do give that to her, you are going to experience sex with her that is so hot you will not want to go back to the selfish and useless act of perpetually getting yourself off via masturbation.

you may need sex therapy. if your woman wishes to go to it with you, that will be all the better. but you yourself need help. don't continue this habit into marriage: you will end up getting divorced.

Answer 4

Frequent masturbation will cut down on your ability to get aroused. Cut back or quit for a few weeks and see if there is any improvement.

Don't blame the girl, you are doing this to yourself. You may have created a habit that could be hard to break. Have you tried having her manually stimulate you? You could work in small steps from masturbating to manual stimulation to having her get you aroused by light touching finally to normal arousal.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Definitely sounds like an issue of boredom, masturbation would not cause this, have you tried role play? Or introducing movies? You gotta stimulate the mind.

Answer 7

yes mstbtn too frequently can be to blame. Its over stimulated which becomes used to the sensation building a resistance to hardening. Try not doing it so much and you and your gf will be much happier. And no, just because its the same girl will not be to blame. When u get the urge to spurge, play a videogame...lol

Answer 8

I knew a guy with a similar problem, he was on ritalin for adhd which caused that. i don't really know what he did about it though, but if you took something like that, it could be the reason

Answer 9

Maybe you aren't attracted to her anymore and it could possibly be because you masturbate too much, try not doing it for a while...or maybe you need Viagra =)

Answer 10

if you *** before you start with her, then you'll have trouble.. otehrwise, could be nervous. start with gently forepley.. masturbate your penis using your own hand then get her to touch your figners ontop of yours.. slowly remove your fingers and let her apply her hand.. if you cant stay hard with a hand job, then you won't be emotionally comfortable going fuirther..