Ok should I email the girlfriend and let her know that the man she is invoved with is married or should I leave it alone and by the way we are seperated.
2007-01-20 17:00:18 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
confront the problem and get rid of the reason for that problem, you don't need disstrust in your everyday life
2007-01-20 17:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I would leave it alone and file for a divorce. It sounds like to me if he has a girlfriend he has no intentions of getting back with you. I am sorry. But I think it is time to dump him. Possibly he had this girlfriend when the two of you were not seperated? You need to live your life now and let him live his.
2007-01-20 17:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by myninny54 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone if you are separated and not sleeping together. Do you want him back, are you just curious about them, or both? Why don't you ask him about it first before you start slamming the girlfriend. You will save a lot of drama that way.
2007-01-20 17:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by RunsWithKnife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person is separated, they are still technally married . . . Married people are not to date someone else. Engaged, yet not married...o.k. to date another? No. Separated, but still married...o.k. to date? No. Want to date? Divorce first.
My vote . . . notify the girlfriend. When a person is married and has an affair. . . they are making the choice to sneak, lie, fluff the truth . . . Married people who date another are opening themselfs to the arena of the ' chance ' game. The chance that they will be revealed, the chance that no one will ever know, the chance that some one may or may not be hurt . . . The 'game' of chance is really gambeling. When one gambles with the heart. . . other ' players ' in that 'game ' are also involved in the game in play. One of those others in the 'game ' may choose to ' reveal ' information to other 'players' in that game . . . which in this case is the choice of one to reveal information to another.
The husband involved in a relationship chose to be in this 'game in play' and it will play out as it will.
Honesty and truthfulness are of value . . . Reveal truthfulness to his girlfriend. . . she has choices in this 'game' to make choices of next ' move '.
Personally, my choice of the next move would to say 'bye bye' to the married guy. Dating a married guy is limiting and puts a woman to be second choice, second rate, having to share him with another. A woman of self value and quality heart would never share her guy with any other.
Two years ago I dated a man. . . it was discovered he was married. I had developed deep care for him, yet I cared and valued my own heart also and would not be second to any other woman...I immediately ended it...took my time to heal. . . and I still adore, value, and respect men. . . Just don't respect men of shallow hearts.
If a man is married . . . reveal it.
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2007-01-20 17:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are separated then I think it's ok for him to have a girlfriend, but it depends. Is there no possibility of reconciliation? If that's the case I see nothing wrong with him moving on.
2007-01-20 17:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by AL IS ON VACATION AND HAS NO PIC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. You are seperated - sounds like your husband has decided to move on. I would not contact his little girlfriend - this will only make matters worse.
2007-01-20 17:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would confront her in person if you still care about this man. If you don't care and think thing will never work out again then leave it alone.
2007-01-20 17:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are seperated then you have no say in it. Just because you aren't providing for his needs doesn't mean you can prevent them from being met.
2007-01-20 17:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are seperated he is a free agent. Thatis the joy of getting seperated.
2007-01-20 17:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends. How much do you hate him, or do you really care. why are you getting devorced? has he cheated before? I wouldn't want to communicate with a letter that she can go back to and say you said it, cause that is proof. I think if anything, try calling her, cause then if she says you said something, you can always deny deny deny. She has no proof.
2007-01-20 17:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends if he had the girlfriend while you were married if he did yeah tell her if he got the girlfriend while you were seperated than its off the record and i wouldnt mess with it
2007-01-20 17:03:13 · answer #11 · answered by Lynn W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋