its been a really rough beginning for the new year. my huse was broken into on new years eve, my secret stash (that wasnt so secret) of money was taken sentimental jewelry that my father gave me b4 he passed my ss card and birth cirtificate was also taken. im unble to work because due to herniated disks in my neck i get migrane headaches because of this tht make me sick to mt stomach that the only thing that makes me feel better is going to sleep me and my husband have been arguing like cats and dogs because of trust issues and to top it off the apt. that i live in the landlord is selling the house and the buyers want it empty by march 1 my husband is on disability and is half crippled due to a nasty accident and cant work how is this supposed to happen if the money i had stashed was stolen? we dont have a lease so i dont know if i can take this case to court to extend the date of us having to move. any thoughts or how i can get things to work out in my favor? thanx for all thoughts.
2007-01-20 16:57:26 · 10 answers · asked by blue 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when we first moved into the apt. it was through mutual friends. the landlord said that it wouldnt make a difference if we had a lease or not. it was brought to my attention by a mutual landlord that if they want us to move by a certain date that they would have to pay moving expenses no matter the cost. the landlord is the type of person that doesnt like to bother with no one elses situations unless it benefits her or has to do with money. when we tried to get a lease from her she said that it would take a matter of time and have to go through her lawyer to get us one. thus never getting one. how true is it that the new owners have to pay moving expenses and is this still possible even without a lease even if we have rent receipts and never missed a payment
2007-01-20 17:07:12 · update #1
when we first moved into the apt. it was through mutual friends. the landlord said that it wouldnt make a difference if we had a lease or not. it was brought to my attention by a mutual landlord that if they want us to move by a certain date that they would have to pay moving expenses no matter the cost. the landlord is the type of person that doesnt like to bother with no one elses situations unless it benefits her or has to do with money. when we tried to get a lease from her she said that it would take a matter of time and have to go through her lawyer to get us one. thus never getting one. how true is it that the new owners have to pay moving expenses and is this still possible even without a lease even if we have rent receipts and never missed a payment
2007-01-20 17:07:17 · update #2
when we first moved into the apt. it was through mutual friends. the landlord said that it wouldnt make a difference if we had a lease or not. it was brought to my attention by a mutual landlord that if they want us to move by a certain date that they would have to pay moving expenses no matter the cost. the landlord is the type of person that doesnt like to bother with no one elses situations unless it benefits her or has to do with money. when we tried to get a lease from her she said that it would take a matter of time and have to go through her lawyer to get us one. thus never getting one. how true is it that the new owners have to pay moving expenses and is this still possible even without a lease even if we have rent receipts and never missed a payment
2007-01-20 17:07:28 · update #3
FIRST why wasn't the stash {money} in a bank?
Second, the jewelry in not important as your SSI number and birth certificate. these things should had been in a lock box or something like that. and third to protect the landlord and the renter a lease is always drawn up. As why you and you husband is arguing it's because it's the blind leading the blind Are you guy smoking pot and not in tune with reality or what? I have no helpful hints for you guys. maybe learn to protect yourself next time
2007-01-20 17:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop looking at it so negatively.
Your house was broken into, but you were not raped or killed.
Your Social Security card and birth certificate can be replaced.
The fact that you don't have a lease is now a learning experience.
You might have to move with nothing. You might have to go to a shelter for a while.
You say your husband is on disability, okay that's regular, reliable income, no?
You say you cannot work, but you certainly can type, there's half a page up there. Either you did this from home from your computer, or at the library. Either way, you got a skill at using computers, enough to turn one on, find this site, and ask.
To get things to work out in your favor, have a good plan, think about what you are doing, and think positive.
You still have breath in you. If so there is a reason for all of this. Go to church or get some spiritual guidance, and grow from the trials in your life.
2007-01-21 01:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lease or no lease you can take your landlord to court and possible get your move out date moved. Depending on what state you are in it could take up to 3 months. sorry you are having such a bad year but now i no I'm not the only one. better days ahead take them one at a time. stress on the relationship is tough why is it that when everything around you is falling apart the other half wants to fight about it instead of supporting you and your emotions. Good Luck!!
2007-01-21 01:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by becca40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I say anything else, I want to say that you sound like you could probably use a hug. I really sympathize with you. This sounds like a trying time for you and I can understand your worry and fear. Sincerely, in response to your question about how you can get things to work out in your favor, the best answer I can offer you is what I think is the right answer: Please pray. If you feel at all connected to God, now is the right time to reach out to Him and ask for His help and guidance. I know how it sounds to say this to a perfect stranger but the truth is undeniable: With God, all things are possible. Especially in situations when things look bleak, God is who turns things around for good.
I don't know you but I sincerely hope your health, and that of your husband improves, that your stolen jewelry and other important items are returned and that your housing situation is resolved. I wish you the best. I've merely pointed out your strongest weapon: prayer. It's what has made all the difference and changed the course of my own life more times than I can count.
2007-01-21 01:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by lissie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow!!!! that is trully terrifying. im just a young man from college but i have money problems with my mom and my house and studies. i use the loans and scholarships to help her out because she normally has many problems in her head, she suffers from deppresion and there is a suicidal tendency in my family. but is tough what you are going through. going to court is a good idea because you have a right to a home and they cant just take that away, they cant leave you away from your home without you finding one first. is as if you were being thrown out like a dog. is inhuman, wrong and simply beastly what they are doing. you should be able to get some help because of both your husband's and your own disabilities. try that out?? in the fights of trust well my girlfriend and i are going through that but i just worry for her friends, they could probably like her and could try fishy things to damage the relationship. my advice there is for you to talk things out, not argue, and keep your voices down dont yell to each other. when you get angry you say things you dont mean and that could damage the relationship even more, BELIEVE ME. if you both keep calm things will workout, just find a happy median, compromise thats a number 1 in marriage. well i hoped i was of some help eventhough im just a "kid" :) good luck and i hope for the best and a lot of success to you.
2007-01-21 01:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by MAX 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd consult a lawyer anyway bc u live there and have bills and other official mail addressed to you there, thats a start , focus on each day separetly, my son died a year ago and thats what i have to do , but eventually it helps you to focus on more of the future then yesterday...u know, as for the rest i'm sorry u have to go through all that heartache and stress, i pray for you and hope the best for you
2007-01-21 01:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Non of what happened is the landlords fault ,do all you can to move out ,is there some one you can stay with for two months ?
Perhaps you can go to a shelter temporarily .
2007-01-21 01:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man thats a though situation but you need to see a councler or a phycatrist to get it all sovled out.
You can go on welfare
2007-01-21 01:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by karlos k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going through life's valleys sweetie. you need to strengthen your spirituality so you can pull through and overcome all the challenges that you and your husband is facing. visit a nearby church or talk a godly friend whom you can pour your feelings out.
2007-01-21 01:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mei T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow you sound screwed over and like your being tested. sounds like you have to push the moving date back obviously. besides that theres nothing you can really do. it is what it is i cant give you advice if theres nothing you can change.
2007-01-21 01:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lynn W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋