My son and his girlfriend broke up around the first of Dec. But the way it was done, was in good faith, They remained friends and we're on speaking terms, My sons pay's me rent, for the room he has, and also helps with groc, etc. About 2 weeks ago, we had some bad weather and she was unable to drive home, because of icey road and snow, He asked if she could stay here, and I agreed. Well during this time I have gotten really close to her and I look at her now as part of the family, well my son and her got into a small spat, and she told him that she was sorry for acting the way she did etc..Now all this time I am asumming that they are back together, and everything is ok. She has not lefted my home even tho weather has been better for the last 4 days, and I also want to say that she has been a great help to me, for I have been ill and my car has broke down, so she has been cleaning and doing errands for me.. Anyway my son went out with another girl last night, while she was out with her
2007-01-20 16:54:39 · 4 answers · asked by Diana J 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
family, He told me that they have never gone back together and that they we're just friends.. His girl friend is now upset about the whole thing last night because she still loves him, I am upset because I have gotten close to her this way, Now How do I deal with this in my home? I am pissed that I feel I am in the middle.
2007-01-20 16:58:01 · update #1
i feel bad for you that you like this girl so much and your son obviously doesn't (since he did go out with someone else). you cant make him be with this girl if he doesn't love her. she is probably just hanging on to old feelings whereas your son is moving on. your friendship with her is allowing her to keep hanging on. it will unfortunantely probably be better for her emotional health if she leaves now. you can always stay in touch with this girl by phone and email, but the mature thing to do would be not talk about your son. if he's comfortable with it in time, maybe you could pay her to come over once a week and help you out around the house, but only if its not causing any emotional drama. just remember, you might like the next girl just as much.
2007-01-20 17:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by sarah s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may feel close to her,but she need to be out of the house
this will cause problems for everyone, she and your son are
not together and out of respect for you if no o ne else she should
leave and soon as possible. he has a right to be with someone
else and you have a right to have your house back. she may
be using hour kindness as weakness..
2007-01-21 01:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhhhhhmmmmm..... maybe a little speech would do... do your mom thing..
you are just woried that you might upset her.... you also have to consider both sides... that would be comfortable for everybody not for 1 or for 2..
2007-01-21 01:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by noems 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OGM, you have got to set boundaries.
I don't care if your son IS paying rent, this is your home. If you want her out, boot her out (nicely) and don't take any s*h*i*t for it.
2007-01-21 00:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Sheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋