My fiance has been with several woman. Is it wrong to want to know there names? I just want to make sure we don't name our children after one. I don't want him thinking of an ex when he's calling for our daughter. What do ya'll think?
2007-01-20 16:49:00 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
It's not that he wont tell me. I just wanted to know what people thought before I went and asked.
2007-01-20 17:00:56 · update #1
I definitely understand what you are saying. My husband just loved the name katrina. I later found out it was just someone that he had a one night stand with.
Can you imagine if I'd named my daughter that and then found out the truth. It is a very touchy subject, but best to know before a baby is born than after.
2007-01-20 19:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by Karen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who hasn't been with multiple partners? Really? I'm sure there are a random few who "mate for life" with the first person they are ever intimate with, but what difference do their names make? I really like the name Olivia, and if I have a daughter, I am not going to not name her so because her father had a fling with someone names Olivia in the past. Would you give your fiance the same privilege if it's a son? Are you going to lay out all the men you've been so that he knows his son isn't named after one of them? So to answer your initial question, yes, I think it is childish.
2007-01-21 03:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by lustatfirstbite 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you want to go about it in an easy, less-confrontational way, don't ask him for the name of every woman he's ever been with, instead tell him how you feel. Tell him that any names that you are considering cannot be the names of one of his ex's, and if they are, that you want him to tell you, and same thing if he likes a name, don't even tell you if it's the same as an ex of his!!! But consider it the other way around too, if it's a boy, don't consider any of your ex's names unless he knows it's an ex and is ok with it.
2007-01-21 02:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
knowing the names could cause problems for you because you seem insecure. but tell him your concerns and any others you might have and ask him to let you know if he would choose the names you would like. i doubt that he would want his daughter to have the name of an ex. although some names may be the same and just be nice names and so what
2007-01-21 01:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by holleemerry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong at all! I would personally do the same thing. I know when considering names for my own children, I purposely wouldn't consider names of people that I disliked or had any connection to in a neutral or negative way. The last thing you want is a constant reminder of that!
2007-01-21 01:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by thoughts_in_a_blender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant too and have thought the same things. I thought of the name Cheyanne for a girl and my husband says it is a pretty name...I couldn't help but wonder if it was pretty to him just because, or pretty to him because a previous Cheyanne was pretty. All in all, it is no big deal...I just won't name her after the girls I do know about..I really don't want to know about MORE.
2007-01-21 01:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by next PO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think up all possible names for your baby, then ask if any of the ex's had any of the names
2007-01-21 05:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by kellygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's funny because I thought the same thing when I was pregnant last. When my husband would say, "I like the name Heather"..I would immediately wonder if it was an ex-girlfriend and that this is why he liked the name. It made me mad. Yeah, I would ask him just so you don't use one of their names!
2007-01-21 01:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jenibee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. An EX is an EX. In my family my first born son is supposed to be named after my husband's father (Charles). BUt hey, one of my ex's was named Charles. I'm not taking that honour away from my son just because of an EX.
Don't be insecure about your relationship. An EX is an EX.
2007-01-21 02:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by simvils 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like trust issues. He is with you now, don't let the little things get to you. If he is not with the other girls why in ga's name would he ever want to name a kid he would see everyday after the one who got away, or that b++++ who cheated on him, or whatever else. Its not childish, but it is kinda out there.
2007-01-21 00:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋