I am completely grossed out..or maybe not exactly grossed out with the idea of having sex at all..truth is I've never been with anybody like that..but when my ex boyfriend asked asked me about it.I said ok..and then when the time came I couldnt do it because I felt extremely uncomfortable..I mean.some people might think that its was because it would of been my first time...but the truth is that I don't like the idea of having sex with a guy.and i always fantasize about doing it with one of my lesbian friends whom I joke around all day.I find myself looking at her and fantasizing.I can't do that when i'm looking at guys though...I find the act of doing it with a guy as disgusting...but when I imagine this with girls...I like it...the bad thing is that my friend sees me looking at her n asks me why I'm lookin at her like that...n i don't know wat to say..but somehow I think she knows what I'm thinking...I'm scared to say anything to her or anyone b/c my my family is catholic...help!!!
2007-01-20 16:38:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all, there is nothing wrong with being gay. If you have absolutely no attraction to men, but you are attracted to women, then you are probably a lesbian. Hanging out with lesbians does not turn you gay! It would help to talk to a trusted friend, preferably someone who is gay and happy with their lives, so that you can explore this side of yourself and not be ashamed if it turns out that you really are gay.
2007-01-20 16:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by Beth B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's normal to be scared and intinidated of sex the first few times.. especially if you are not comfortable with the person you are with..
i was 25 when i tried to have sex the first time and i could not keep my penis hard. i was too scared! but that didn't stop me from giving my gf oral sex, and she loved it!
later, i realized i was bisexual, but that's not the point. anyway, you might be bi, or maybe totally lesbian.. try not to freak out.
you don't have to label yourself anything yet.. try to date guys for a while longer and see if you like them.. it's not just about sex, see if you can develop feelings of romance, love, etc.. that's what it's all about.
if that doesn;t work, then date a girl and see if you get feelings for her..
good luck, and don't worry too much!
2007-01-21 00:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think this is something you need to know "right now"
take your time, you dont have to do anything you dont want to and if you are lesbian thats ok. Loads of women dont know
right off the bat. Just relax and think about how you feel. It will
all work out in the end
2007-01-21 01:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be. It sounds like you need more time to experience how you feel about both sexes.
2007-01-21 00:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by rgeleven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it sounds like you're gay. Welcome to the community! You could either downplay your sexuality until you're out of you parent's house and get to avoid that possible war for a couple of years or you could prepare yourself and then come out to them. Good luck!
2007-01-21 02:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your around lesbians you re easily influenced by them you
see youre confused b/c your seeing people do different stuff but
you have to realize who u are and just b/c ur not attracted to ur boyfriend doesnt mean you could generalize that to all guys
2007-01-21 00:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think ur not les but u could be bisexual
2007-01-21 00:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋