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Question

IM DRUNK SO HERE WE GO
My wife recently found out I have been talkin to another girl BUT we r just friends(REALLY). We have not done anything together but go out to concerts (cause wife wont) and to a bar everyonce n a while(cause wife wont go out). If u was my wife what would u think about or say to me I want to no cause she thinks im cheatin on her and im not FOR SOME REASON I CANT DO IT which is a good thing RIGHT. POUR IT ON ME WHAT WOULD U THINK OR SAY TO ME

Answer 1

First off...I'm the type of wife that would go out places with you, ever if I didn't want to go. So I think your wife is being a controling, prissy, whiny *****...

Of course she is going to *think* you are cheating on her, you aren't making her the center of your universe. and to be honest, buddy, thats cool because YOU are the center of YOUR universe. And you need to tell her that. You need to tell her that by her not wanting to do the things that you like to do, it's really hurting you.

I'm sure there are things that she does, that you tag along wiht that you HATE..(shopping....) Let her know that you go with her because you LOVE her...

HOWEVER...I would start to distance yourself with this women, or make her a mutal friend. But tell your wife that she needs to indulge in some of your interests to..because that is what love is.

Good luck man..need some more advice..hit me up on messanger...

Answer 2

Drink some coffee and sober up. You already know the answer to these questions. You are a married man. Don't you have homies? Why didn't you go to the concert with one of ya' boyz? Why didn't you hook up with the fellas to go to the bar?

It hasn't happened yet, but it will. You will probably blame your drinking for what happens next. It will not turn out well. Your wife is your best friend or was your best friend. You turn to this girl and try to brainwash yourself into thinking that it's innocent. Stop fooling yourself.

Talk to your wife. Let this "girlfriend" go. Seek counseling and save your marriage. Don't be selfish. If the shoe was on the other foot you'd be gettin' da gat! If you want out, then discuss that with your wife. Get to the bottom of why you feel the need to engage in extracurricular activities with another woman. Innocent or not, it is time for you to make some hard choices.

Answer 3

If I was you wife I would be pissed. Married people should NEVER have even a friendship with the opposite sex. You say you can't do it, but that can change. Will power is only so strong. And by you saying that you can't do it, tells met that the opportunity has presented itself, and will again in the future. And you are going to give in to it if you don't get rid of the "friend." Your wife should be more important to you than taking a chance like that, because even though you haven't cheated yet, you are already setting yourself up for divorce.

Answer 4

You're not cheating on her now but in the long run you may and especially if you're drunk at the time. The normal way society runs is that you don't do things alone with a married man regardless if its only a friendship. The best thing you can do is talk to your wife and be honest with her. Let her join you guys or show her thats its nothing but a buddy relationship.

Answer 5

I would say, "Why is it so important to you to go to concerts and go to bars, that you would go out with another woman, even if you are just friends? Do you not have a male friend that you could hang with? Why don't you want to spend time with me?"

Is there something you and your wife both like, that you could go do together? You should focus on what you have in common. Her feelings are going to be hurt, because the time you spent with the friend, talking and enjoying the concert, even without the sexual aspect, is very intimate.

Answer 6

You are acting like a cheating husband so it is only a matter of time before you become one. She has every reason to be jealous. If you valued your marriage and loved your wife/family, you would not be jeopardizing it. You could go to concerts, etc., with one of your male friends but you chose to go with this other woman. Quoting you "for some reason I can't do it". So the situation must have come up already. How long will you play with fire before you get burned?

Answer 7

First cut the booze. I know I can't stand being around a drunk. When a person is drunk, they are not real and don't make any sense. Find things you and your wife can do together and quit going out with other girls...even if you are "not" doing "anything" with them. Put more of an effort into your marriage and grow up and be a man.

Answer 8

Just because your wife doesn't go to the bar or want to go to concerts with you, it doesn't give you the right to take some chick along. You are cheating on her. You can go to a bar and to a concert alone or with your male buddies. Or better yet, stay at home with your wife where you belong. You deserve whatever your wife dishes out and take it like a man.

Answer 9

You're setting yourself up, my friend. You can't tell me that there isn't any sexual tension between you and your lady friend. There must be a reason you are taking her and not some fella along on your outings.

I think anytime that you are spending your energy on a woman other than your wife there is at least a little something to worry about. Who's to say that one night things won't get beyond what either of you intend.

I say listen to her. If it makes her uncomfortable then isn't it worth it to go alone or take another guy? Just my thoughts.

Answer 10

If I were your wife, I'd go with you and we wouldn't be having this problem.

Does that make what you're doing OK? Hell no. If the wife has an issue with it, then as her husband it's your responsibility to correct it. After all, you and the other girl are "just friends" right? She should completely understand why you have to pull back, if that's the decision.