Okay I am really working on self improvement. My new focus is being true to myself. I dont know if this is something that comes easy to most people, but with me, I seem so afraid and sure that if I just be me people will want to be as far away from me as possible. I cant pinpoint it. I know I am physically attractive and I know how to "act nice". thats just not enough though. I have alot on my mind that I just dont think people can identify with. I am very concerned with philosophies, very complex, always into the "bigger picture". I spend a long time dissecting every subject in my mind. I am very curious and sometimes it confuses me.
Around other people, I just pretend to be care-free and float along like normal because I dont want to wierd people out. If an attractive girl who seemed to have some sense was telling you this, what would u think? Should she just be herself because this isnt wierd at all? Or should she not share these things because its unnattractive and irrelevant?
2007-01-20 16:31:09 · 17 answers · asked by NICE LADY 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The type of people you associate with concerns me. The fact that you even have to feel any uncertainty about being inquisitive or profound around the company you keep tells me that either a) you don't trust that you're intelligent enough to support the types of conversations you long to galvanize, or b) your audience isn't bright enough (no offense) to entertain intellectual thought.
Contrary to how you're feeling, you don't have to choose. Its neither peculiar nor impossible to be both "carefree" and deep. You just need to decide if you fit into that happy medium, or if you fall better into one dynamic or the other. It isn't an "unattractive" quality for a woman to be both physically attractive and mentally adept. Actually, it makes you a greater and more appealing asset depending, again, on the company you choose to associate with.
Don't ever hide who you are for fear of what others may think of you. Be who you are and to hell with whoever doesn't like you. Keep up the curiosity, young Einstein -- but remember to try to keep your questions at least remotely relevent. And try to find yourself some smart friends, girl.
And...
Well said, breathe
WTH @ Professor Sheed??
2007-01-20 17:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by evelynn waugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep - BE yourself....we are human BEings. Why is there a need to dissect everything? Try to accept things as they are. Quit "acting nice" - just BE nice. In fact, BEing nice is the most attractive thing there is. Physical attractiveness is okay but if there is an ugly heart, that will blot out the physical beauty real quick.
2007-01-20 16:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You worry too much in what people are going to be thinking of you if you are yourself. Act natural and just the way you usually are do not try to be what you are not, because some people can see through you and know the real you. Do not be ashamed to be yourself because the one who will suffer is yourself. Who, cares what people think they do not own you, and do not live with you, be proud of what you have accomplished, so far which to me is better than trying to hide our imperfections to the World. Good luck and I am pretty sure that being you is better than hiding behind a curtain, and trying to be someone else you are not.
2007-01-20 16:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can really identify with you on alot of things you said. I have trouble sleeping at night because my mind is always going..thinking of everything and anything. I have found that you cannot let that part of you rule you. But at the same time its ok to indulge in analyzing (or over analyzing as I do) things that bother, amuse or concern you. Maybe you have a friend who does the same (but doesn't share with others like yourself) my best friend and I can talk for hours and hours about everything..religion, education, life in general. It really helps when you can do that with another person..You are who you are and don't worry what others might think...if they don't like what you have to say..find someone that does.
2007-01-20 18:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Laceyfromcali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is better letting people know the real you. It is never good to hold everything inside. Those people that would think your unnattractive or irrelevant after you show them your real self are people that you shouldn't socialize with because you are you, they shouldn't get in your way. So just keep doing it because it is "self improvement" to you. Others shouldn't get in your way.
2007-01-20 16:42:23 · answer #5 · answered by Huang Yi-Chao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend you are over dramatising things .What is important is called Self Integrity.That means if you tell someone you will do something you do ,if you say a time for something that is when you are there not a half hour late .Be totally honest with everyone ,keep all your promises if you know you can't keep them tell them it is ok to say no to certain things when it does not suit you .You do all this you not only will be liked but respected .Most people do not have this quality unfortunately but you can choose to be this way.
2007-01-20 16:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot give a prognosis because I am not a PsyD and I have not spoken with you. I do know that she is enjoying being misunderstood. She is being transitive, and seems to have a thought process disorder because some of the sentences have thoughts that aren't pertinent to the rest of the sentence. Being unattractive isn't pertinent. She can share if she feels comfortable.
2007-01-20 17:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Professor Sheed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would prove that some pretty women actually use their minds and not their bodies. very good thing!
you need to learn when and where and how much to show.
when i was at a almost prison like place (it was not prison i went willingly to learn construction) i was around gangmenbers and jocks, and other not so good types 24/7 so in that siauation i showed my darker side
when i am with my girl friend i show her my innocent loving side
when i am with one of my true friends i show the true me, both the innocent and sweet side as well as the sadasistic and violent side
just depends on the sisuation.
2007-01-20 16:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In intending to be true to yourself, you are really listening to your voice and observing your mind. It sounds like you are realizing that some of the 'act' is not in line with the real you. Continue to your work on your self through observation and awareness. I don't think you are weird at all, and I agree that it is difficult to share these things because we don't have the language or practice to comunicate our true selves.
2007-01-20 17:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by breathe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a typical teenager who just wants to fit in, but hasn't realised yet that fitting in is entirely relative to the people around you. Of course, it's nearly impossible to realise this as a teenager especially if you are in a small community and worrying about the cliques and popularity. In high school, it's weird to be yourself. I doubt anyone is themselves in high school except maybe the 'weird nerds'. By college, you'll find that most people are 'weird nerds' and love it.
2007-01-20 16:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋