early this year, i became friends with a girl in my math class. we were cool and everything, she even gave me advice about guys and dating... .anyway, she recently started asking me if she could put make up on me and then she told me (not suggested, but actually demanded it!) to cut my hair, get side-swept bangs, and dye it! now i feel very awkward around her! she recently sat behind me in class, played around with my hair, then asked to put make up on me during class! i can't avoid her, but i don't know what to do! help!
2007-01-20 16:30:27 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
WEIRD girl. Tell her to leave you alone. Ask the teacher if you can sit somewhere else.
Good Luck!
2007-01-20 16:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that you're having a hard time concentrating
in class and that you need to sit up front...then speak with
your teacher about this distraction..perhaps she can move
you. In the meantime, tell the girl nicely that you just
love your hair and make-up the way it is and that you
are not ready to change it period. Find a guy friend to
hang out with for a while.
2007-01-21 00:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by verbally telling her thank you but NO...when she wants to do something ur not up for...cutting ur hair and putting on makeup should be decisions made by u and u alone...Tell her that u don't like the hairstyle and u want to put make up on by yourself, or that u don't want to put makeup on in the middle of class...if after this she starts getting really aggressive tell an adult or teacher around u that u feel uncomfortable with your friend
2007-01-21 00:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by soulfullilangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like she is very controlling and if you don't like that in a friend (I don't know who would) then you are going to have to be assertive with her. You don't need to be rude but you should tell her that she is making you uncomfortable and that you are happy with who you are and do not need to change. You can tell her that although you appreciate her advise, you feel that she is becoming a bit pushy and that you would like to stay friends with her but that you would prefer it if she was not as aggressive/invasive with her efforts to "help" you.... or something like that.
If you are polite but firm their is no reason for her to react badly and if she does then she is not the kind of person that you want to be friends with anyway.
If she is still a problem after that, talk to your teachers and explain that this girl is disturbing you and ask if you can change seats.
2007-01-21 00:40:38 · answer #4 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell this girl how you are feeling tell her it makes you uncomfortable and you don't like it when she demands things from you and not asks or suggests. She may have a hair fetish or perhaps just her own ideas but whatever the case you need to deal with it before it gets out of hand and ruins your friendship best of luck :)
2007-01-21 01:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by crazydazey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you like the way your hair looks but if she really likes that hair style that she should get it done to her hair. tell her that you think make up is ok every now and then but not all the time. and especially not in class. whatever you do when you tell her anything make sure you sound firm like you mean what you say. if you sound like you doubt yourself then she might not take you serious and continue with her behavior.
2007-01-21 00:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by azeris23 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel comfartable when she is doing/asking you to do those things if no then you should just tell her that It's okay she dosent need to do your hair, make up or say why do you want to keep changing me or you can just tell her at lunch that you don't feel comfartable that she is doing all of this. Hope this Helped!!
2007-01-21 00:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, you don't want to change your hair. The next time she asks to put make up on you, tell her no. You don't have to be cruel, but you don't have to take it either. Is she holding something over you? Are you afraid. JFK said, you have nothing to fear, but fear itself. When you were small, were you afraid of the dark? How did you conquer this fear? By facing it! That is what you should do here. This is your life, not hers. Take it and make it, or someone else will break it!
2007-01-21 00:37:15 · answer #8 · answered by zephyr.mode 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmm.. Maybe you should ask her why she's doing it. Otherwise, just try to tell her no while maintaining a good friendship. How about, "No thanks, maybe another time." Make it a statement, not a question. If you're unsure, it's more a reason for her to control your life. Hey, maybe she wants control over your life... Of course, I'm just saying it, plus I don't know your friend's personality, so you're going to have to take over.
2007-01-21 00:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you concider her a good friend but there are things she does that makes you feel uncomfortable. If she can't handle that she was never a real friend to begin with.
2007-01-21 00:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by dirty lil mind 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋