After so much thought and years of unhappiness, I have decided that it would be best to seperate. But I am sooo scared to tell him. Just a few weeks ago, he quit his meds cold turkey, including anti depressants. I am especially nervous about his reaction now. BUT, why cant I muster the courage to say what I need to?
2007-01-20 16:30:12 · 5 answers · asked by azzur15 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Deep down inside you must know what kind of person he can be. I suggest you have a family member (big strong man) over while you inform him of your thoughts. if that's not possible ................. Cook him a good dinner, run some hot water for a bath, give him a night to remember before he fall asleep ....then by all means get the hell out (while he's asleep)!
2007-01-20 16:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have carefully thought and explored every outlet to keep your marriage together, then it is something to consider. If he is violent, abusive (mentally/physically), and/or cheating on you, then you have every right to end the marriage.
There is a reason that you are afraid. Do not tell him alone. That may not be safe. He may be unstable after quitting his meds. I respect the fact that you want to tell him face to face. Try and talk to him in a public place where there are many people. Have someone nearby (brother, uncle, dad, cousin), preferrably male, to intervene if he becomes violent.
It is hard to tell someone you love that you want out. There is such an emotional bond between the two of you. If this is what you truly want, then get it done as soon as possible. I honestly wish that you will find a way to work it out. If not, then be very cautious, honest and upfront with him. He may surprise you and tell you that he didn't know that you had these feelings.
2007-01-20 17:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by NawlinsB4Real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never , dont' think about that my dear sister. there would be some unhappiness in everyone's life. it's quit natural..so plz .. try to enjoy the life with ur hussband.. all the best .. take care
2007-01-20 16:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by share 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a friend with u and tell him straight up. advice 2 shots of vodka before u tell him.
2007-01-20 16:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with him and tell him how you feel about
the marriage and that you are not happy, maybe you both need to
get counseling then you can make some decision.
2007-01-20 16:43:33 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋