Ok why is my husband so obsessed with anal sex? He asks for it on a daily basis and he even trys to buy anal sex, like how much money or what could I give you for anal sex. I tell him that if hurts and that if he dont belive me to let me do it to him. What can I do to make him understand that it just doesn't do anything for me?
2007-01-20 16:25:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He became obsessed with Bella Donna, and no he aint been in jail. He dont care if I do it to him, he just wants to get my a.s.s.
2007-01-20 16:40:16 · update #1
Excellent answer from "seldom seen" above. I'm not saying that you should undergo the torture of the rack for the sake of your husband and marriage but you might want to consider that part of the reason that he seems to be obsessed with anal sex is that you have turned it into the unobtainable goal. Honey, men need to always reach for the brass ring in whatever they do and sexually it sees to me that you're the one who has turned your own butt into his own personal ring to pursue.
Marriage is a give and take proposition and if you won't even try to meet him on this then sooner or later it's going to come back to bite you. Really try, use lube, practice relaxing, start small (one then two fingers) and try to get into it. There are plenty of other women who enjoy anal and I'm not saying that he'll ever meet one or be unfaithful because of it that but it's something you'll always wonder and worry about. That isn't one of my concerns.
2007-01-23 05:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Barb S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does it well it shouldn't hurt. He needs to help you relax, take it slow, use minimal penetration and use lots of lube.
Then if you just hate it and can't do it to please him, tell him it's a no go. Sex is not about pain, injury or insult. You shouldn't cooperate if you can't.
But if you can tolerate it once it's done properly then ask him to trade for something you would enjoy. Sex, after all, is a game and should be fun. Your married and both of you should be getting what you want out of it. Think hard, sweetheart. Isn't there a little something hubby could offer in exchange?
2007-01-21 00:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow !!!! Has he been to jail alot? Just asking I've never knew someone that obsesses with that & I tried it & don't like it eitrher I don't underastand how men can be gay. Yes that hurts that's why tried it once & said hell no . I don't know tie him up & let him feel it LOL. Try to talk with him & tell him it hurts too much & u don't enjoy it at all . If he doesn't respect you he doesn't love you for you. Your not a token , your a woman
2007-01-21 00:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by pammybear1971 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he loved you, he wouldn't want to make you feel pain like that. He is sick! You should definitely seek counseling. Ask him why he is so obsessed with it! Is he wanting to explore homosexuality?
2007-01-21 00:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by cakekweeny 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to quit watching porn. Buy him a dildo and say if I can do it so can u and smile and give him a High Five!!!!
2007-01-21 00:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is not doing it correctly...
More foreplay, more preparation, more lube, gentler...
Try a few drinks first....
2007-01-21 00:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A LARGE "TOY" AND DO IT TO HIM. SO HE CAN SEE JUST HOW ENJOYABLE IT IS.
2007-01-21 00:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by KAT 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋