My friend has come to me because I am in a happy marriage of 5 years and she has been married for 2 1/2 and now says she is not in love with her husband but she has a 3 year old with him and will not leave him. I don't want to break up her marriage with my advice. Every marriage is different. What should I tell her? Thanks.
2007-01-20 15:30:35 · 12 answers · asked by Mare 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your right you dont' want to break up her marriage. and everyonews marriage is different for what suits them. You can just tell her the basics. make sure they opening communicate well not yelling thats not communicating patience lots of love give and take and sharing. and always hearing the other person and making time for one another and not taking the other partner for granted. Maybe try to tell her thing on how to rekindle the romance too if she is feeling she doesn't love him anymore.
but stay out of it if she asks you point blank should i leave him or have an affair. this will be her decison
2007-01-20 15:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to ruin this guys life by acting like she wants to be his wife when she really doesn't. In the meantime she'll come up with every excuse under the sun why she's not ready to have children. Next she'll find someone else that she does want to marry and will end up having an affair with him. Finally she will work up the nerve to tell this guy she wants a divorce and break his heart because he will find out his whole marriage has been a lie. Now years later he will struggle to trust a woman again and when he does because it's been years most of the women he meets already have kids from previous marriages and can't or don't want anymore. So he will miss out on be a father liked he always hoped because your friend was a selfish b@tch and only thought of herself. No matter how much she thinks the truth will hurt him now, trust me it will destroy him later!
2016-03-29 07:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What, one day she woke up and decided she wasn't in love anymore? Apparently she must of not been too in love with her hubby when she got married. I would not stay with a man because of the child, the child will sense the tension. Besides that, other children could possibly be born. That would really be a mess. I would consider marriage counseling, and go from there.
2007-01-20 15:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her this. Most people that decide to work out their marriage are happy in five years. I think it is like 80%, I don't exact remember but it was very high. She should stick with it and try to remember the beginning happy times. Experts say that if you remember reasons why you married someone it increases the happiness. Tell her to think and think real hard.
2007-01-20 15:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That every marriage goes through rocky moments, but it meant something when they decided to get married. It meant something when they said "I do" and it's time to really think about things and decide how responsible she wants to be.
Sometimes the right thing is not always the easy thing...it requires work. I'm sure within your marriage of 5 years (congrats by the way!), you guys have had your shre of arguments and tough times...they go away.
2007-01-20 15:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, like you said every marriage is different but if she feel out of love with the guy the she should leave him bbut let their child see his father every other/every weekend.
2007-01-20 15:36:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that u need to tell her what u think and tell her that u will be with her in what ever she may choose and then tell her that she does not need to be with him just be cuse of that little one and that u will be there no matter what and i think that if u dont love that person no more then u need to give up and go on and i think that people that stay together just couse of the kids then they are not happy and they dont want to be with them then they get to fighting and thats not good just tell her that u will be there for what ever happens
2007-01-20 15:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by megryanmc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to ask her husband to go to counseling with her don't get to involved because if something goes wrong it will be your fault. Tell her to go with her heart and leave it alone. People are gonna do what they want no matter what you say.
2007-01-20 15:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by lifeisbeautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her just that every marrige is diffent. if she really is looking
at what to do, then maybe she need to talk to a marriage counselor that will be more help to her, but just be there for
her that the best thing you can do for her right now.
2007-01-20 15:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not about emotions. Marriage is about commitment and companionship. She needs to honor her vows and put God first in her marriage. Tell her to check out www.marriagetoday.org
2007-01-20 15:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋