Hey dudes, I need your opinion. My gf confessed to me that she has made love with at least three men before meeting me, for years. I feel spiritual pain, feel it is dirty and can't enjoy anything with her. Her past haunts me day and night.What would you do if you were me? I want to give up...
2007-01-20 15:27:56 · 12 answers · asked by Arturo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what she did before the two of you go together is in the past and thats where it needs to stay.
2007-01-20 15:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fine.. After a certain age you have to expect that its probably going to be the case one way or another. She is with you so you can't be much worse right? Although I would be skeptical. If a girl tells me 3 then the first thing I think is 6, some girls lie to the downside cause they know about male ego.
2007-01-20 23:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by days_o_work 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man relax, My wife made love to 5 men before we finally married. We were married for 25 yrs before she decided that the marriage was over. I suggest that you ask her if she is over the other men...are you going to be her man now? And decide if she can have that dance for the rest of your life or is it time to step aside and do the two step with someone new.
2007-01-20 23:35:12 · answer #3 · answered by beetem@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k i know u said males only but i think you need to view it from both sides, just because she isnt a virgin i dont think that matters..if shes still sleeping around while u 2 are together then yeah of course thats bad but i dont thinkyou can blame someone for having sex before they even met you
just remind urself that outta all those guys she chose you and should be happy and enjoy urself together
2007-01-20 23:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad that she's honest. I know it's a bit difficult to cope up with as you may be feeling insecure about your relationship. But that's upto you to manage. You need not worry about her relationships in the past.
2007-01-21 08:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dude, if you don't like then don't go forward with the relationship.
But, I must say that finding anyone these days that hasnt been with at least 3 partners is RARE.
2007-01-20 23:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up to reality friend.
Your relationship with your wife BEGINS when you start going out together.
If the answers will hurt you why did you ask the question ???
2007-01-23 10:33:46 · answer #7 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past is the past. dont let it ruin your relationship with her. you cant change the past. she is not dirty at all. she is still good in my book. 3 guys is nothing to really freak out about.
2007-01-21 02:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by young grown man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl friends life did not start when she met you. Her past should not matter to you. Work on the future.
2007-01-20 23:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by kd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no big deal at all. It's in her past. Think of it as training to make her better in bed for you.
2007-01-21 03:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Bill I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋