Hes on of my best friends ever.. his dad died on thurs. he came to school on fri. and it was really hard for me to see him there.. u could tell he was sad but acting happy & nobody really talked about it.... i don't knoww what to say to make it better?? what should i do?? i know i've never been in this sit. before but i feel for him.. && the fenural is this weekend should i go.. even if he saidd it doesnt matter??
2007-01-20 15:03:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go to the funeral, take an adult if you need.
Don't worry about what you say to your friend, just be there for him. He needs your presence not your words. the best thing you can do for him is to let him know that you are there for him and if he ever wants to talk you will listen.
The only comforting words you can give someone who is grieving are "I care", "I'm here for you", "I'm sorry", "I'm praying for you"
Only time, prayer,love, comfort and the support of friends and loved ones will help you friend, Try to keep your friendship as normal as possible. What ever you do, don't be afraid to be around him. He needs you and his other friends
2007-01-20 15:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by Cherylfae 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your friends father. I don't know that anyone can say anything to make it better. Just tell your friend you are sorry for his loss and let him know that you will be there for him if he needs someone to talk to.
It is so hard to lose a loved one, and sometimes it is hard to talk about and face that it is a reality. He may be just acting like it doesn't bother him because it is too hard to deal with right now.
As for going to the funeral, it is a nice gesture to show respect for your friend's parent and your friend. But, the decision should be up to you as to whether you want to go or not.
2007-01-20 15:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well for one yes you should go to the funeral.. it really does matter to him alot and it will help him to grieve if you are there. i think you should not try to hide the fact that his father has died, you should talk to him about it say so how are you feeling and always try to tell him not to push anyone away... my best friends dad died when we were little and it was really hard back then but i tried and persisted and made her feel happy again. try to remember all the good things that happened with him and his dad and how much of a great person he was..... its really hard i know but if you stick by him through everything he will come around.. he is going through a greiving point if you try and help him through this it will make your friendship even stronger.
i hope this helps you out..... also REMEMBER GO TO THE FUNERAL
2007-01-20 15:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely go to the funeral. He may say it doesn't matter, but it does. Remember that you can't fix this. The only thing you can do is be there for him. My mom died when I was 18. That night, my best friend sat up with me all night until I finally cried myself to sleep. We barely even talked that night. What mattered was that he was there. That was 22 years ago and he *still* has my back.
2007-01-20 15:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't say anything to make it better. Just be there and talk if he wants or 'help' him to grieve. Don't try and make it go away, rather allow him to feel what he's feeling and offer a hug or support.
Go to the funeral and see for yourself what it's all about. You will gain a deeper understanding of what it is to be alive, as well as you will be there as a good friend. It can only make you closer.
2007-01-20 15:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by Knuckledragger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dad died unexpectedly nearly 3 years ago it was and still is the worst day of my life as i am sure it is for your friend. The only thing i can advise is to be there for him, you dont have to say anything just you being there will be enough and yes go to the funeral he may say he is not bothered but believe me he will need all the love and support you can give him.
2007-01-20 15:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him you are sorry his father died. I would say that you are there for him if he wants to talk or just hang out. I would then check on him everyday asking if he needs anything. Don't keep asking how he is because you know how he is. Be his best friend and don't be afraid to talk to him. He needs you right now.
2007-01-20 15:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 19:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by nastasi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he really needs right now.. is a true friend. he might act all happy and joyful just to make sure that you[and other friends] are happy and wont worry about him. but it would be very sweet if you went. he says it doesn't matter, but it truly does, even though he doesn't want to admit it. so if he wants to talk about it.. talk with him and listen to what he has to say. let him know that your here for him. and if he doesn't want to talk about it.. just don't bug him about it but let him know that your still here.
:D
2007-01-20 15:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U should totally go!!!! Ask him about his dad and how he feels. Comfort him, he'll bounce back eventually(like in a year or two). Ask urself how you would feel if ur dad diend and try to relate to how hes feelin. I really hope that helped...it would be really sad for me if my best friends da died:(
2007-01-20 15:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋