If your whole family was murdered, what would you do with the rest of your life?

Question

Your whole family was murdered, you saw it, and you remember the whole thing every day for the rest of your life, every time you go sleep or walk down the street or sit on a bus.

The criminals have been sentenced to life in a terrible prison system. The only kind of justice a society can enact has been enacted. You could care less because there are a million more of them out there.

Now what? You're young and trying to figure out how to survive and cope with the loss at the same time.

What would you do next and what would you say to yourself every morning when you wake up? If you decide to wake up?

Everyone, thank you for your honest answers.

Answer 1

My whole family is dead...(not through murder) but you just live.
You work, have hobbies, make a family (friends, co-workers, furry family) You just live your life. Why dwell on something that cannot be changed and it cannot rule your life....
The dead are dead, you can't make them come back, you can build a shrine and keep yourself in the room with a shrine for company, but theres a BIG world out there waiting for YOU to live in it, finding love, and happiness wherever you are.
If you can't cope without help, get some.....
Don't worry about the criminals. They have their own lives/problems and you shouldn't waste time on the 'nothings' they are....because if they were 'somethings' they wouldn't have killed in the first place. (Killing is due mostly through stupid, I have nothing else to do acts of selfishness....) Don't waste time and energy on things you cannot change....
You can only change youself and for the better...so I'd work on that...( and I did...)

Answer 2

hello
Well lets see.. First off, you are ASSUMING that the person SAW the murders , and that the murderer was caught and convected, and that they lived in a State with no death penalty, and that the person received a life sentence....
As for the scenario you desciped - mentaly coping with the situation - there would be a lot of grief - unbarable at times, I am sure. Yet I would go on with my life after the long greiving period of probably several years, and do my best to recall the happy times that I had with the loved ones - not simply remembering the horror of how they died.
And there is a reason to continue on - for when it comes to my family - blood is thicker than the rights of a criminal , And though against the basic beliefs of my religion - I would be out for revenge if EVERY member of my family was killed by the same peson for no just cause what-so-ever...
Be the revenge simply one of continuing on with my life regardless of the sadness which happened - or one of having a hope that the person would get an early parole.... {wink}
Believe it or not - there are people out there which have lived through a situation worse than what you described... People can over-come the worst case scenarios, and live a happy life after the greiving period - which time differs from person to person....
And there are those like myself - I would carry on - yet after the sadness had became less - there would still be the thought of revenge and that would last for many years.

Answer 3

Life goes on. Chinese proverb says if seeking revenge dig two graves...one for yourself. Best to live your life like every day was your last. Do things to help others and by doing so you will heal.
Eventually you may have a family of your own to live for as Job of the Bible lost everything and everybody and came back stronger with a new life.

Answer 4

I would join the Army, combat arms of course, train hard, "this gives you little time to think about your lost family" get to be the best soldier possible.

Every morning I would pray for the peace of my lost family, and let them know I am here and will never forget. Then if the scumbag(s) ever get paroled I would hunt them take out the decades of anger, bury the chunks in unmarked graves.

Then go pray at the cemetery of my family, and hopefully this will bring peace.

any questions.

Answer 5

One can say that they would do this and that, however, unless someone has walked in those particular shoes, one cannot say for sure what they would do. It would probably put me in a deep depression and then anger. However, since I have children, I don't think that I could ever get past the pain, hurt and depression. There would be nothing left of me.

Answer 6

Wow that is so horrible!! I would do the best to survive i would go to couseling. The best thing that i could do for myself is to stay busy so i don't think about it too much so i don't kill myself i would put myself on meds. for awhile. Later on i would try to meet someone and start over. it's easy for me to say that now but i can't even imagine going through something like that it sounds like a nightmare! i hope you don't have a personal experience relating to this?

Answer 7

Find something to occupy my time, be afraid of dying, and just living every day as I live now, trudging along. I think most people don't wake up for a specific reason, merely out of habit.

Answer 8

ive thought about this question before. and i cant seem to find the answer. im stuck inbetween two, id either want to kill myself which is the weaker side of me. or i would feel a huge need to be strong and positive about it, by changing my attitude about life, and becoming a better person.
now that i think about it, i hate to say it, but depression would probebly overcome my attempt to be happy, and i would probebly not wake up in the morning.
its a sad question tho. be greatful for your family.

Answer 9

learning how to survive is impt. i supposed you could moan, but there's no point in it as moaning won't bring ur family back.

learn to survive on your own. wake up every morning and tell yourself you have to live life to the fullest because you are living the life your family won't ever get to have again. make the most out of it, you should be glad you survived on your family's behalf.

Answer 10

I'd probably lose my mind. I'd get into self-destuctive coping like cutting , drugd etc. i could not go on or if i did go on it would haunt me for the rest of my and ill hate my self for not beig able to save them.