Help. Death!!?

Question

Ok my friend died about 2 months ago i am still not over it i feel like crying every time i go to school but i dont want to be rude to ppl who were closer and it makes me think about death and makes miss my nanny ect ect please dont comment for getting more points the is important

p.s. HELP

Answer 1

What you are feeling is normal and the most important thing you can do for yourself is to allow yourself to grieve. It actually takes at least a year to deal with a death.
You will have times of crying, anger, denial, resentment, acceptance. You also will find that time will not heal but time will make the pain more bearable.
Accept that your friend is gone and allow yourself permission to cry when you need. Journal your feelings will really help. Don't analyze what you write, just write what you feel, get it out of your head.
Everyone grieves differently, so don't ever compare yourself to others. If you hurt, let yourself be sad. think of your friend with love and cherish the memories.
MOST OF ALL---------GET HELP WITH GRIEF IF YOU CAN'T OVERCOME IT. there are alot of counselors, pastors, teachers and adults who are equipped and willing to talk with you, I know, I am an adult and I went through the same thing a year ago.

Answer 2

I had friends that died when I was 11, 14, and 2 months ago as well. I still cry and think about them all. It really does affect the way you think about life, and how easily it can end. It's scary, and depressing. You'll never stop missing your friend or loved ones that die, it'll just get easier day by day.

I know what you mean by not wanting to cry because there are others that were closer to the person that died than you were. My friend that died 2 months ago, I didn't want to cry at the wake because I felt ashamed and rude for drifting apart from her. I kept thinking, I bet they're thinking "why is she here, or crying, she wasn't around in the past 3 years" I know how it feels. When someone close to you dies, whether it be friend, classmate neighbor, it'll always affect you. I think what affects us the most is the reality of how fragile life is. It's okay to cry about it, and remember loved ones that pass. Like I mentioned before, You'll never stop missing them, or forget about them. It'll just get easier to cope with it all.

Good luck,
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Answer 3

Grieving for a dead friend is an important process, and you should not try to cut it short just because some other people might have been closer. However long it takes you, that's how long you should give yourself. Not everyone handles a loss such as yours in the same way or at the same pace. The important thing to remember is that at the end of the day, your friend would have wanted you to go on and have a wonderful life, so make everything you do count in a positive way.

Answer 4

O.K. I don't know how you believe but i can only comment on the way i believe.I don't know how your friend died. I believe that a certain part of us does not die. This won't make you less unhappy for losing your friend. Maybe if you can feel this way it will be a little easier to accept. You may only lose them for a little while and not forever. I lost a good friend when i was about 10 years old and i still think of her sometimes and hope to see her again. She was killed in an auto accident. I guess she was just to good for this world.There have been others i lost. This was a long time ago and then not so long ago. If i could help you in any way i would. Take care of yourself for your friend!

Answer 5

Chica, It is a natural known fact that we will all die some day. Some lose their lives younger than others. God has a reason for calling us home no matter how old or young. It is only natural to miss our friends and loved ones as they pass. But, remember, they are probably in a better place than we are. The missing never really stops. My granny has been gone now for 24 years and I still miss her. Time has helped me stop with the tears and sadness. But, there will always be a void in my heart for her. But, I know someday I will see her again. I will also get to see the other family members that I have lost over the years, as well as my friends.

Answer 6

2 months is not enough to get over a death of a friend... It's ok to feel this way. I've lost friends and relatives, and I still miss them - even after several years have passed. In a way, you will always miss this person - but the intensity of the sadness does fade with time.

Answer 7

2 months....hunnie, You shouldn't be "over it." You never get over it. You learn ways to deal/cope. My sister died 12 years ago. I am not over it. Certain things strike me and I cry. As for others being closer to her, you deserve to grieve too. If you don't, you won't ever deal with it. If you feel like crying, CRY, sometimes it helps!! Death is a scary thing, think positive. One good lesson I learned is to make sure that those that you love, know it. Give lots of hugs too. :)

Answer 8

well, im not sure what you want people to say here. i'm truly sorry for your loss and i wish that you didnt have to go through this hurt, but nothing that i can say is going to make it any easier. instead, you need to talk to a counselor or a parent or someone who can help you come to terms with that loss. i understand that it's difficult, and of course you dont want to intrued on people who were closer, but that doesnt mean you're not allowed to feel your own grief. talk to anyone who will listen. the only way to get past these things is to talk about them with a trusted adult. good luck!

Answer 9

Try talking about it with someone really close to you. There's nothing wrong with feeling sad at the loss of a friend. No one will think you're rude if they know what happened, they should understand.

Answer 10

You are going through the normal process of grieving. I know that it feels like you are alone, but you are not. And you know that. Why do you want to put all of YOUR family and friends in the same position? It'll happen if you take your own life.