Husband cheating?

Question

My husband is really acting weird lately..he comes home from work takes a shower right away then he leaves to "go out".He is staying out late 4+ times a week then when he does come home he takes ANOTHER shower. He hardly eats at home anymore and is barely here period. Just today I found a pic of another woman in his wallet hiding. I looked through it because I am so suspicious of what might be going on! What do you think? I don't wanna be stupid here but he keeps denying anything is going on. I have young kids so i can't just jump in the car and look for him and he knows it too so he does what he wants! I am very sad right now...

Answer 1

you already know the answer in your heart. I feel there are strong signs that he is cheating. Excessive showers are a sign of possibly cheating. If you really want to know hire a private detective, but you need to make up your mind. Do you want to work on your marriage or leave him? What do you want or expect from him? Try not to fight or accuse him in front of the children. You were right that they do not need to be drug into this.

Have faith and know it is not your fault, the choices he makes are his responsibility even if he blames you. He will attempt to justify it and get out of it. You should check out some books from the library on the subject and possibly see a counselor to hlep yourself feel better even if you don't go as a couple. Whatever you do--don't get mad or act crazy--he will try to push you to that point. You are smart and sensitive and don't need to be manipulated.

Take heart and have faith that it will all work out whatever the outcome.

Answer 2

The answer is obvious, of course he is cheating.You have the evidence. You need to confront him about your feelings and show him the picture you found. If you don't recognize the woman in the picture than you should get some answers. Or better yet hire a private detective to follow him around if you want more details as to what is going on. If he is acting out of character and your instinct is telling you something is wrong than it's time for you and hubby to have a serious talk or just contact a divorce lawyer.

Answer 3

Well, you can't jump to conclusions but it certainly looks that way. There are agencies out there, or private investigators that can follow your husband if you are suspicious of your husband cheating on you (have you ever saw the show cheaters?). You can keep looking through his things to see if there is any other evidence of him cheating, make sure you don't get caught.

My mother was cheated on, she caught my dad by looking through his closet finding papers of his credit card bill showing the hotel rooms he had been to one day during a week (when she would think he would be at work like a normal day). He kept it secretive for years. My mother also found wine bottles, and on the papers that showed him going to a hotel room there was a women's name as well.

Good luck.

Answer 4

So why would it be important to prove infidelity just to get divorced? If he provides financial security now, then a judge would expect him to provide that after divorce. My feeling is he doesn't have a job and neither do you. He leaves for weeks and doesn't even call home to check on the kids? Great Dad you chose for your children. Call it quits and focus on yourself and your children. File for divorce so you can get an order for child support for the kids and you can start getting your life back on track. Who cares if he's a cheater. He's obviously not a good husband or a good father. Don't waste any more time.

Answer 5

By reading your story, you pretty much answered your own question. Are you afraid of losing him? You need to get honest with yourself, and decide if this is what you want out of life, and what your kids deserve. If he works all day, and than comes home, showers, and off again, where does the fathering come in? By the way, when is it your turn for time out? I hate to break it to you, but you are human, and you do count in this world. But your the only one who can change this whole mess, and stand up for yourself! I feel it's time, don't you? I don't think you have much more to lose! He's pretty much got you down to nothing, AND YOUR PERMITTING IT!!!!!Time to wake up, and smell life again!! Enough with the excuses, take a deep breathe, and start loving your self!! You have got to be worth it, for you and your kids sake!! Get as much mental support behind you-that you can, and put your foot down. Either he wants to be your husband, or not!!! It's not going to be a bowl of jelly for him paying child support!! Why should you share your man with anyone else???? I totally praise you for sticking in there this long, but please don't let anyone disrespect you like he is!!!!

Answer 6

Im sorry honey but he is most likely cheating. Married men shouldnt go out like that, u would know where they are if they did go out......also all of a sudden he is taking many showers.....what is he doing that he is so dirty? And the picture, u need to talk with him. Of course he will deny it cowards do.

also get his cell phone records, u can find out who he calls.....when he goes out look at those calls.....

also u may have young kids but u can still leave, noone should be cheated on......if he has a problem in the relationship he needs to confront u, not cheat.

please dont let this go on

Answer 7

Sweety, I think he could be cheating on you. Could you have a private investigator look into it? If not, could you leave the kids with a parent or friend to do some searching yourself. Demand to know where he goes and insist that you go with him. If he doesn't allow you or gives you stupid reasons why not, tell him it's over. If he cannot be honest or let you partake in what he's doing, then he's doing something wrong.

Answer 8

You poor thing, my heart aches for you. I've been through all this myself. Be prepared sweetie, he is definitely playing up going by what you said. They are sure symptoms and hope you have family and friends, cos you are going to need them. He will keep denying till the sun goes down. He might even tell you he loves you if you're lucky, which he won't mean but, just to keep you off suspicions until he sorts himself out. Take care sweetie.

Answer 9

OH HONEE,, some advice I would give you is,, have a talk with him,, a loving honest talk, and ask him if he is happy? Tell him how you feel, don't beat around the bush,, get it out in open, some women will turn their heads,, and let this go on for years,, only to be subjected to stds or aids,,
You have to have respect for yourself and do some investigating work see for yourself what he is up to. YOU basicly have 2 choices , deal with what is happening or choose to deny it's happening.
It will be hard, because you have to figure out what is making him want to do this, sex? feeling taking for granted? no closeness? Don't throw him out, he actually needs you at this time in his life, find out what the deeply bedded problem is, before you act out of anger!! Most of all pray and take care of yourself and kids. Fight for your family, it will be hard but it will be worth it in the long run,,, My prayers are with you.

Answer 10

Of course he is denying everything! Did you really expect a cheater to have an honest bone in his body?
You may not be able to jump in the car and go looking for him, but you can have a locksmith over to change your locks next time hubby is out banging his little piece of fluff on the side.