Me and my boyfriend have been on and off with eachother for the last three years. He is everything I want in my life and he is the sweetest person I've ever met. We've gone through a lot of things and broken up several times before but he knows and understands me like no one else I've ever met. Sometimes just being around him he is able to tell exactly what I'm thinking without me saying a word. He's the only person I know who likes my sense of humor or enjoys doing the things I enjoy to do (reading poetry and analyzing it for fun or talking in detail about the significant shades of a color found in a work of art) but me and him both have a few issues. I suffer from depression and he suffers from depression and anxiety attacks. We were engaged a while back and we started fighting alot and he ended up leaving and it hurt me alot. Our relationship is DEFINITELY NOT what is defined as normal in any way. So in that case is it unwise for me to try to pursue a future with him?
2007-01-20 14:48:47 · 10 answers · asked by Tasha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also we both have issues in having physical intimacy, both of us having experienced some form of sexual abuse in the past.
2007-01-20 14:50:21 · update #1
I do love him of course, or I wouldn't have become engaged with him in the first place.
2007-01-20 15:09:23 · update #2
pre marital counselling is a good idea. but the way i see it is you guys obviously understand each others problems and if he has confided to you about his sexual abuse it means he really trusts you alot. You guys appear to have a very close and loving bond the only problem i foresee is what if you are both going through a depression at the same time?? who is going to be the breadwinner?? do you both plan to work??.. This is why counselling either together or individually is a good thing. I cant see why you guys shouldnt be able to make a go of it.
2007-01-20 15:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by angelbaby777au 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was once engaged whilst I was once 24 and married whilst I was once 26 Our marriage ceremony colours had been a faded peach and chocolate brown We each and every had our brothers as witnesses (two complete), it was once an excessively small marriage ceremony (14 individuals had been there adding us and our reverend) Our reception was once held a month after our marriage ceremony, and we didn't have assigned seating, such a lot individuals did not take a seat, it was once a cocktail celebration We had a small chocolate cake after which a type of cakes for individuals to decide on, I believe there have been five distinct offerings We went to Maui for 2 weeks We received married in Gleneden Beach, OR, a tiny the city at the coast, simply external of Lincoln City
2016-09-08 00:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you both have an understanding of each other, but my advice is to lay everything out on the table and play your cards. I myself suffer from Depression,and it's not the end of the road. Go to counseling and get on meds, as well as him too! Your relationship will work if you both want it too. As far as the intimacy problems go... Take it one day at a time. Things will work out slowly but surely!
GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH!!!! Hope this helped!
2007-01-20 14:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by ♥xvioletx1882♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point, I would just stay where you are with the going out and enjoying your times together . If things are better down the road, say 2 or 3 years and then maybe start taking the M word
2007-01-20 14:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. These days you don't see marriages that go on for 20/30 years like the older generation. It's good that you're honest with yourself in identifying your depression....realistically, you two should go through counselling first before setting anything in stone. Some kind of firm foundation needs to be set first before commiting to marriage for life.
2007-01-20 14:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think marriage is the answer and that you shouldnt get married until you sort your s^&t out so too speak. As marriage wont change anything.
2007-01-20 15:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by SuzyQ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not without some serious pre-marital counseling.
2007-01-20 14:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by S. W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not one word mentioned l-o-v-e in your inquiry.
If that isn't in the equation, don't bother. It will disintegrate as fast as you build it up.
2007-01-20 15:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him ow you feel and see how it turns out.
2007-01-20 14:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by ed456 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure
2007-01-20 14:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by bill h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋