my bf and i are buying a house next month and getting married.when we were talking about bills and such he said he does not want a house phone he wants to just use our cell phones.when i explained i allways had a house phone and would like one now he said ok but he did not want to be listed in the phone book(i could have my name in there just not his)he had 101 excuses why he did not want to be in there but none of them made any sence but he was VERY serious and told me more than once not to list him.now i find this wierd because he was and still is listed in the phone book with his exwife and could care less(they have been divorced over 5 yrs and hes still listed with her).so why for 12 yrs he was listed with his 1st wife with no problems but is having a fit about being in the phone book with me?its not his ex she knows about me, and has our phone numbers.it just makes me think is there someone else he might not want know hes re-married,or call him on a phone that i might answer?
2007-01-20 14:31:39 · 15 answers · asked by jennyguil897 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't disagree with your conclusion. I wish I had a different one, but yours is probably correct.
2007-01-20 14:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps this is precisely why he doesn't want to be listed anymore... Because he has been listed, and is tired of it. I never wanted to be listed in the phone book, I don't know why someone would want to be, unless you're a business. I think you're making a big deal out of nothing; it's his decision, and the only reason why he even had to be coming up with the "reasons" is cuz you were "on" him about it. If you don't trust him enough in such a simple matter - why are you planning to marry him? My husband and I don't have a landline at the house, neither of us are listed in the phone book, and it never even occured to me to question it.
2007-01-20 14:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is wrong about the harrassing phone calls. You do NOT have to have your phone number listed in the phone book. You CAN get an unlisted number, it costs a few cents more a month on the phone bill. The only people who can call you are those YOU give your phone number to.
2007-01-20 14:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH boy!
Sounds fishey to me. He may not honestly be divorced. He may have another gf on the side and not want her to know about you. He may owe a lot in child support and not want to be found. He may owe a lot of money to a creditor.
There are so many reasons but this really opens a door for investigation before you take that jump into matrimony with him.
Think, learn and listen before makeing any rash decisions with this one.
2007-01-20 14:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirlduchess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry , but i have to agree with him. a house phone opens the door to so many harrassing phone calls from sales ect...wrong numbers. we can not even answer our house phone because the calls that do come in are never for us. We are letting our house phone go an keeping our cell phones.
2007-01-20 14:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the one you need to be asking. If you have reservations about him, PLEASE do NOT marry him. More and more people are going to cell phones, and abolishing their land lines. It's not unusual. And his X is the one who needs to correct her phone listing. It's been 5 years. HIS name should not be included. If there's a listing it should be in HER name....the one who's responsible for payment. Are ya SURE they're legally divorced?
2007-01-20 14:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me he may of had a problem before with someone , possibly a ex gf that was a stalker, or possibly bill collectors as well.. i wouldnt fret about it to much.. just respect his wishes as u would want him to respect urs if something meant so much to u.. i do think he's trying to avoid someone, but i dont think it has much to do with u or him cheating or anything of that nature...if he's given u zero reason not to trust him then just go with it.. if theres more to his character that shows signs of possible issues other then this, then maybe be leary.. but if its a first time issue of curiousity..try to let it go..
2007-01-20 14:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it, it seems logical but I think that you should at least you should investigate more don't go jumping into conclusions. When I say that you should go investigating you should find out why he and his ex broke up and you should find out about his ware abouts a little. If you do find something then you should dig but if you don't then he just probably burnt once with it doesn't even want to think about it and wouldn't do it again.
Good Luck
2007-01-20 14:52:07 · answer #8 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him about a telephone with caller ID. Use Initials. He may just not like a telephone ringing while he is trying to eat or anything else personal.
2007-01-20 14:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
you got it right. there is something going on there. he is hiding or keeping a chick on the side and doesn't want her to know about you. there is something there i can not express that enough.
2007-01-20 14:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋