I still care for him and I wonder if I should find a guy that is able to help me because my baby's daddy is too poor?
2007-01-20 14:22:27 · 15 answers · asked by leah B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Just ask him to be there to Love and care for your child. You could get state checks to help you in taking care of the baby. My baby's dad is also poor living with his mother not working and all I want him to do is love me and the baby that's all that I ask for Money isn't everything in the world.
2007-01-20 14:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by mommyinneedofhelp 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he is poor is no reason for him not to be just as responsible as you for the baby he helped bring into this world. If you make excuses for him now you will always be making excuses for him. Make it clear to him that you expect him to help support his child and to do WHATEVER it takes to do that. First and foremost, getting a job. That means not being picky about what kind of job he takes. If he has to flip burgers or whatever, then he needs to do that and give you a percentage of his pay every week. I highly suggest that you get a lawyer and a court order for this so that he doesn't decide to change his mind.
Good luck!
And yeah, I'd probably try to find another guy, but don't make anymore babies that you can't afford to raise.
2007-01-20 16:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't poor enough to think about having a baby when he was making her.
I'm sure he can find some kind of part time work to help out or he should find part time work.
If he can't pay part of the bills then he can help with babysitting her and going to doc's appts with you.
My dad used to say any ahole can make a baby but it takes a real MAN to raise one.
He needs to step up and be a real MAN and support his child and find work that pays well. He also should be providing you some kind of a home or contributing to your's and the baby's keep wherever you are living.
2007-01-20 14:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy-tish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. let's see.... father ....baby... that means TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD. Money is only a SMALL part of it. Maybe he needs to get an education, go to trade school, get a second job.... something, help financially take care of the baby. Welfare is not the answer the all of US are taking care of it. And finding another guy to take care of HIS kid... Good luck there. It is still his responsibility. NOT someone elses. You shouls have thought of these things before you got pregnant or kept this child.
2007-01-20 14:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirlkolbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not think about this before you lay down and have a baby with the guy. Please tell me this is a joke. If not God help this poor baby with you two for parents!
2007-01-20 14:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm. first of all, he is responsible for making the choice to create this baby with you and as such, should be asked to take part in supporting his child. he may be poor now, but perhaps he will do something to better himself in the future? perhaps he can solicit the help of other interested parties (his family members). give it a try.
all the best!
2007-01-20 14:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter if he's poor or rich he is your childs dad. and he has a responsiblity of helping you take care of your child. and you don't want to keep the baby from him , if he wants to see his child. because the only one that you are going to hurt if you do that is your child. talk to him figure something out. maybe he can buy diapers or formula for the child. at least its something.
2007-01-20 15:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it shouldnt matter poor or not ..he helped create this baby and so hes just as responsible. You need to ask him to help you with his baby that he helped create. He needs to help in every way possible.
2007-01-20 14:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat with my daughters dad. I thought why should i be the only one who supports "our" child... I went right down to friend of court and got child support. Don't worry about taking his money.Your child is his responsibility too. They will go by his income anyway. Don't feel bad. You can do it!! Good luck!
2007-01-20 14:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by Amy O 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say H E L P , smile it will be ok , you just have to put a fire under him sorta speak , tell him you need help with his baby , good luck sweetie
2007-01-20 15:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by janice a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋