Living in America.?

Question

In 1996 I fell in love with a woman from California who was traveling through Europe.
I was born and raised in the beautiful medieval city of Brugge in Belgium.
Now we have been married for 10 years and have 2 daughters and we are living in America since our move in 1996
I have been so unhappy for a long time and have never been so stressed out before in my life like I am now.
We all know how fast paced the life is in America .
My relationship is fading away and I seem to be tired all the time.
I miss my friends/family and the Culture in Europe.
I sometimes wish I could walk away from this life, but I can't do it because I wouldn't see my daughters again.
Is there any one in the same situation who has a hard time to adjust to the American way of life?

Best Always

Answer 1

dear sir,
many of us born and raised in america get stressed with the fast paced life which is why the midwest part of indiana is more laid back. i would say that the fact that california is too stressing for you is a very american point of view. take a few weeks and visit the heart of america. this way you can take time off of the fast paced live and get back in touch with yourself. i recommend you visit places like indiana, kansas, illinois,ohio, kentucky, etc.. avoid the major cities and go to the actual communities. i live in indiana and i must admit that i could not handle california. i took a trip to florida for vacation and was never so happy as when i got back home to indiana so that i could finally relax. if you have questions, want ideas of places to visit,or just need a friend...you can email me from here. my husband or i will answer you.

Answer 2

It took ten years to figure it out.

A little late now don't you think? That passion you felt ten years ago does fade some and the real world does begin to reveal itself.

No I will not try to tell you what to do. I left the USA 15 years ago and have not been back. Yes I do miss a lot there. I have made a life here and will stay. That is my choice for me.

No I am not in Europe. I can't take the bigotry there.

Answer 3

First of all you said,, you fell in love with women and married her. You owe it to her to sit her down and tell her how you are feeling...(communication) is the only way, I totally agree with you America is very fast paced, we live in a throw away society, where everyone wants more and more, only to get it and realize material things don't make you happy.
My advice to you and your family is to all get together and discuss what you don't like in America , and find ways to slow down, to reduce the stress, and have a little piece of Europe culture in your home or neighborhood. I have always lived in America and want a slower pace life, where people don't choke their food down while talking on cell, driving down road,, putting lipstick on. (smiles) You need more humor and a vacation to talk. Pamper yourself and think of ways to KEEP your most precious family together at all cost!! FAMILY are disappearing every week,, don't be another statistic. I wish you the very best!!

Answer 4

There are enormous variations interior each and every u . s . a ., that could desire to in some techniques be larger than between the international locations. Canada has conventional wellbeing care, which only scares the people. It additionally skill Canadian taxes are bigger to pay for it! usa is lots greater entrepreneurial - in case you have the flexibility to alter into wealthy, you are able to. OTOH, the poor there are extremely poor. Canada has greater social classes - it is not so a techniques outstanding politically by way of fact usa. Canada has a tendency to be greater regulation abiding, yet much less religious. there is way less racism in Canada, and gay rights are no enormous deal, in assessment to interior the 'States. Canada has a tendency to be less warm, meaning that for the duration of a few places, residing itself is greater durable, so there is way less time for stupidity. Canada is a mosaic, and the U. S. a melting pot. this means that immigrants to Canada oftentimes save only slightly what they are, the place the U. S. has a tendency to unlike this as lots. Canada is way less militaristic. Canadian infantrymen are among the best interior the international, yet there are few of them, and that i assume it extremely is extremely attainable to stay in places in Canada the place you will be able to desire to spend your existence in no way having even seen a militia guy or woman. Vets are in call for! the single the place I stay (Yukon Territory, Canada) replaced into in an twist of destiny, and truthfully isn't practising now. the closest different one(s) are over 500km (3 hundred miles) away. basically one in each and every of my neighbours does not have a dogs, and a million/2 of them have dogs communities (for sled dogs races, and so on.), so shall we actually use a vet! i do no longer understand if vets are on the expert "we want you" record, yet i does no longer be shocked in the event that they have been. this means shifting to Canada is lots greater straightforward. i do no longer understand regarding the U. S. difficulty in any respect. As for the adult males - i'm a guy, so i myself won't be able to remark! :)

Answer 5

I am really sorry to hear. I think you should discuss this with your wife. Tell her how homesick you are. That way she will know that it's not her.....You are just tired of the place and the way of life. maybe you need to go home for about a month and sort out your feelings. If you still feel the same way after the vacation, then you may need to explore other options.

Answer 6

I'm sorry things are not working out for you. I have a friend who is from Sarajevo and she returns home a couple of times a year to visit family and friends. Perhaps you could visit home occasionally to keep in touch and then return home when your kids are old enough to live on their own.
Best of luck!

Answer 7

Mario,

i was born, raised, and living in the united states. i have many friends that live in Europe and i visit frequently. i wish i were European.

this country has become disgusting. politics, economics, employers, health care and just the system in general is on the verge of collapse. i often think of emigrating to western Europe.

point being. i totally understand and wish you luck.