(He wants me to have a job by Monday....and is agigtated by my less than satisfactory grades in the college courses I am enrolled in)
He doesn't seem to understand that it is very difficult being pregnant!
........Not only are my physical capabilities limited during this time, but I have found that my mental capabitlities aren't necessarily up to par either.
How can I make him understand and empathize with me during this time??
2007-01-20 14:01:43 · 10 answers · asked by sex bot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's amazing how insensitive and disrepectful a man can be.
First of all, you call the shots. If you don't want to work, don't. The most important person right now is you. The last thing you want to do is overextend yourself, jeopordize the baby, and end up on bedrest (like what happened to me). If you can't get that point across to your husband can you reach out to his parents for a little help and intervention? Oh, and pray everynight that in his next life he'll have a uterus......
good luck!
2007-01-20 14:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sciencemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one you can remind him that you are growing a whole other person inside your body and ask him what kind of energy he thinks something like that might take. Secondly, drag him to your next appt. and have your ob explain to him what pregnancy does to a womans mind....especially at this 6 month mark and you're just gonna get more clumsy more forgetfull more tired just a lot more of the same. That is not even mentioning the new symptoms you will start to get the new 3rd trimester aches and pains. Emotionally it's strainfull as well it's everything you could ever hope to avoid in your life and he wouldnt want to work with a 20 lb tumor on the front of him!! Just a few suggestions....
2007-01-20 22:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by rocknchickx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first--good luck with the job thing. ha! i cannot see anyone hiring a woman who is 6 months pregnant.
why not have him go to the doctor with you next time. have him wait in the waiting room til you have a chance to speak with your doctor. tell him the problems. after that have the doctor call your husband in and explain how a woman who is 6 months pregnant obviously feels.
i gained 50 lbs each with my first two sons. i actually waddled. that is sooooo just not good. i felt awful and i was exhausted all the time. yes--- i can certainly remember how you feel.
good luck.
2007-01-20 22:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I was pregnant and worked a full time job, did martial arts 3x a week up until the day before my due date, got the nursery and everything else together and basically did it all. i had a perfect pregnancy and a healthy baby.
being pregnant is not an excuse to be lazy or make excuses. you can do almost as much as you normally can. it is NOT difficult being pregnant unless you make it difficult.
2007-01-20 22:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can do it if you really try. I worked 25 hours a week at a restaurant until 3 weeks before my son was born and I was in college full time getting straight A's until 4 days before my due date.
2007-01-20 22:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get your doctor to explain to him that you're not in peak condition. Guys are much more likely to listen to professionals. Also, whatever you do, DON"T BE WHINY. Guys can't stand it at all.
And to the person above me, every woman is so different in their pregnancies that it's too difficult to judge by the standards of others. I've seen a lot of pregnant woman who get very physically weak during their pregnancies and i've also seen people like my mother who commuted to work as the president of a geriatric company. You just have to take them as they are. Unless they're whiners.......DON"T WHINE.
2007-01-20 22:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't. Your husband sounds like a hopelessly moronic bully. Ask yourself if you want to raise your child around an insensitive jerk like that.
2007-01-20 22:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to wear a belly suit!!! Make him understand how big you're getting and uncomfortable you are. Then get him drunk and ask him to do your school work for you, then see how smart he thinks he is!!!
Failing that, tell him straight out.
2007-01-20 22:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your OB-GYN call him and have a chat with him, explaining things from the scientific perspective.
2007-01-20 22:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him talk to your doctor.
2007-01-20 22:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋