2007-01-20 13:51:22 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
COMMUNICATE!!!!!
Say I love you. Look at each other when you kiss. NEVER go to bed mad at each other. Remember you have a commitment to your spouse. Everyone else is off limits so NO flirting. Always greet each other and don't leave the house without saying bye. Remember, they're your friend too so you CAN talk to them about anything!!! Never put them down or make fun of them in front of others. Smile. Listen. Share. Love each other and have fun!! :)
2007-01-20 14:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by LuVmYfAmiLY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Several things based on experience.
Make sure you are not sacrificing things that are important to you to be with the person. You may be able to accept this in the short run, but eventually you will grow to resent the person if they are forcing you (literally or simply by being with them) to give up things that really matter to you.
Enjoy each other every single day. Say I love you as often as you can. Give each other massages, take showers together. Take time to learn how to please each other sexually.
Wait at least a couple years to have kids. Allow yourselves some time to be together as a young couple before adding kids. It's also common sense because so many marriages don't last the first 2-3 years.
Never give up your identity as an individual for the sake of the relationship. Although you will spend less time with your friends, don't give that up entirely. As much as you love your spouse and want to be with them, you also need time away. Both to do things you enjoy that they don't and just to have a break. Furthermore, if you give up your friends because of the marriage, you may have trouble finding your own identity again if the marriage fails.
2007-01-20 14:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by Justin H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
-Respect each other.
-Don't be critical of one another.
-Appreciate and acknowledge what you do for each other.
-Say please and thank you - and mean it.
-Kiss every day.
-Laugh at each other - and don't take it personally when you're the one being laughed at.
-Ask for what you want (even if it is stupid) and never assume the other person knows what that is.
-Beware of expectations. They lessen the appreciation part.
-Realize that there will be times when you are in love, and times when you hate each other. These times will come and go, and you will survive both sides of those emotions.
Most importantly, realize that marriage is a job. The bliss you are in will not last forever. You must work to keep it together - through good times and the bumps that come with them.
2007-01-20 13:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by gold 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to go to bed angry, the trick is to wake up forgetting what you fought about. Always kiss each other and tell each other that you love one another every second you can. Treat each other kindly and always flirt. Wait if you can until you have children (if you want them) so that you and your spouse can have a few years just together to make a commited and lasting relationship. Never forget that you love this person and they love you. If you don't fight it out occationally then its not normal. Enjoy life and Enjoy each other. Congrats!!!
2007-01-20 14:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never keep things bottled up inside..It will just fester and build up..
Communication!! Talk everything over with each other..
Never go to bed angry..Don't let a day go by without saying I love you..Let each other know how much you appreciate, even the little things you do for each other..
Once the kids come along..Be sure and spend as much alone time together as you can..
Always let him/her know their just as sexy as the day you married them..Even if perhaps a few pounds have been put on..
Always encourage each other..
2007-01-20 14:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by Havin' a good day.. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest to each other.
Talk to each other. HEAR what is being said.
Listen when one is speaking.
Share chores(take turns washing dishes or putting them in the dishwasher, cooking cleaning taking out the trash etc.)
Always greet each other with a hug and kiss or hugs and kisses.
If you are mad, let it be know why and work out the problem, don't assume he/she know what you are upset about.
Don't say "I LOVE YOU" if you don't mean, but you should say it
to each other daily.
Good luck, and wait to have children so you can get to know each other a lot better. Children are precious but require a lot of time attention and love.
Pray together, always be together, because once one starts going out with his/her friends, it starts cause problems in the marriage.
2007-01-20 14:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things to consider before getting married. I am assuming that you both talk about how things are going to be different as a married couple. Good luck to both of you. I've been married once and then I realize that I am not quite ready to settle down. I will give it another shot in three years.
2007-01-20 13:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to each other. Share everything - the little things that happen when you're apart, planning your lives & most important of all your feelings.
Always be honest with each other. My daughter & her husband are looking for a new home. He was going along with plans to buy one. Then just before they started signing up to buy it he admitted that he didn't really like it all that much.
Communcation & trust are the most important things between 2 people who love each ther.
2007-01-20 14:01:02 · answer #8 · answered by Maryrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just got married in October and the best advice I can give you is to make sure you have alone time with yourself and make sure that YOU want this. You need to give him time to make sure HE wants this.
If so, as you plan it gets very stressful. Try to think and breath before you totally snap at your mom, wedding planner, or future hubby. Once it's over, you sit and think, "why was it all a big deal?".
Good luck!
2007-01-20 13:56:23 · answer #9 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay here goes...Realize that you probably get on his nerves as bad as he gets on yours. The first year, you are trying to get used to each other, if you get through that you can get through anything. Negotiate housework, children, religion, etc before getting married, not after. Keep in mind why you got married in the first place because the first time youhave taken care of your husband with the flu, you will need those great memories.
Best wishes to you!!
2007-01-20 13:58:36 · answer #10 · answered by Colette B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋