My husband is upset becuse I am concern about my ex-boyfriend that is on life support. I love my husband, but he must understand that I also care for my ex. What should I do, should I leave or should I stay.
2007-01-20 13:50:49 · 11 answers · asked by heartbroken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Life is so short and precious. It is a shame that your husband isn't secure enough to allow you to grieve about your ex. Reassure your husband that there is no reason for him to be jealous and stay true to who you are - you are a caring person that is concerned for another. Good luck and it sounds like your ex needs your concern.
2007-01-20 13:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kitt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult not to care about a person who you had real feelings for. The fact that he is on life support should generate sympathy even if you did not care about him once.
Husband is being a bit self centered. If he is jealous of a guy near death then he has some serious problems.
I think a bit of caring and understanding from him is indicated.
Presumably the quality that makes you concerned about an ex is part of the qualities he found desirable in you.
He needs some maturity.
This is not an issue that would cause you to leave though. That is unless husband has been abusive about it.
2007-01-20 14:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The day you said your vows, you promised to love your husband until "death do you part". Your ex boyfriend is exactly that...your EX. Although it is very sad that he is on life support and understandable that you feel sad about this, why would you leave your husband because of it? Talk to your husband open and honestly about your feelings. Reassure him that you love him and nothing and no one will ever change that. Then explain to him that you just feel the need to visit your EX because he is dying and if it were another friend, you would need that closure. I hope things work out well for you. Good luck with this.
2007-01-20 14:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you to do but at the same time i understand your concern for your ex but you are married now and i understand how your husband feels too.... Talk with your husband and try to meet him halfway... I would not leave my marriage over this if it were me.
2007-01-20 14:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that this was a man who once was a big part of your life. Although you don't love that man like you do your husband, you still care about his well-being. Your concern also extends to his family who you were probably close to at one time.
Don't leave hubby over something stupid like this. He needs to understand that you had a life before he met you.
2007-01-20 13:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Abby Road 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to understand that he is the one who is with you and that you are worried about your ex. Sounds to me your husband needs to grow up. You have to make your own decision to stay, if your not happy get out, life is to short..
2007-01-20 16:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by aloneathome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a wife, I see nothing wrong with it at all, but I also asked my husband, and he frowned on my answer. But, I think I would still go, and hope later that my husband would understand. Human compassion is important in life, and sometimes we just need to do what we feel is important.
2007-01-20 14:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is rite for u to worry about ur ex...but the thing is u have to understand that u are wid ur husband now and that u must be loyal to him and that even though u arent doin anything to cheat on him...but u should know that reallyyy deep inside he might be jealouse...well not quite jealous but a feeling of discomfort....like its hard to expaine....like put ur self in his place like if he was tryin to help his ex u probably would have the same feeling....or if not thats good but everyone is not like dat....and its not worth leaving ur husband over somthing like dat...i mean if u really love ur husband than talk to him and let him knw nothing is going on....hope i helped and goodluck!!!
2007-01-20 14:02:20 · answer #8 · answered by urzalwayz5646 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay with your husband and jus talk 2 him and let him kno that u really care about somebody that is on life support. Ask him if he would care if his ex girlfriend was on life support. Stay with him though and jus let him know.
2007-01-20 14:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by kc_816ma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband believes you care more for your ex than you do him. That's pretty much a kick in the groin to a guy. It kind of sounds like to me that you've already made up your mind to leave and are just looking for a good out.
2007-01-20 13:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by jaypea40 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋