My hubby is a serial cheat. The obvious thing to do is leave, because things won't change anytime soon. I'm ready to find another place then file for divorce, but when it comes to crunch time, I crumble and chicken out. Why is such an obvious clean-cut decision so terribly difficult to make and then follow through on it?
2007-01-20 13:43:09 · 10 answers · asked by Vanessa 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your common sense is telling you to leave, but your emotions are having a hard time with the decisions and the feelings you have for him. Your will and desire to leave must be stronger than the feelings that you had for him when the times were good.
2007-01-20 13:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have been together for a very long time, it is really hard to just up and leave. I know you are tired of getting cheated on but it will come a day when you are confident enough in your decision that you will be able to say "Hey, I don't deserve this crap and if you wanted to cheat, you shouldn't have married me." It is going to be difficult because you love him and at some point were IN love with him. But you should be treated like the queen that you are and he should have shown you that. And plus you have given yourself to him emotionally and he just did you wrong. You go and get your life back when you are ready to. It may be hard but you still shouldn't put up with it at all.
2007-01-20 13:55:19 · answer #2 · answered by frakmomma04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is hard for you because you are used to where you are at and not living alone away from him.... You really need to either stay with a family or a friend for a while and then get your own place but you really do need to make the break and get away from him and the situation so you can think clearly. You have security in what you have now that is why it is so hard for you.
2007-01-20 14:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We find comfort in the relationships we have been in for a long time. It is a scarey thing to go out on your own and live independently. A life time of being hurt by a cheating spouse is no way to live the rest of your life. Stay strong. You can do this.
2007-01-20 13:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by gold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you scared to leave him?
R u afraid of being alone,is he abusive or are you afraid of what other people think?
I recently got back with my partner of 10 years after he had left me for someone else.
I was devistated when he left me but I was used to it as he has left several times before and had seen other girls in the past.
Im still scared it may happen again but I love him so I am willing to fight for our relationship, if you love him tell him to stop and then fight hard to keep things strong that way if they dont you can atleast go knowing you did the right thing and faught hard for it to work.
Also ask yourself this question :
What advice would I give my daughter if she knew her husband was playing up behind her back.!!! And kept doing it.
(interesting isn't it)
love chantal
2007-01-20 16:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is always difficult. You wish with your whoile heart that he would change. You don't really want the divorce. But you need to get out of that unhealthy relationship. You can do better. Respect yourself!
2007-01-20 14:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks.... sorry to hear that.... I know some people can live with that but it's abuse especially if you know about it...
Sometimes it's better to stick around w/ the other person... I was miserable when I was w/ my husband... but not lonely. Now I am lonely, and very very angry every day... I was never this angry before in my life... I feel like crap.... and don't know what to do with my anger/// it's driving me crazy .... I tried to exercise but it only helps me for an hour or so after I exercise....I hope your life gets better ...
2007-01-20 14:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you want to believe he will change. and you know he will not, and he figures you'll stay..... Leave hon. You have wasted enough years..... And then put up a nice ad on Yahoo personals, Match.com, e-harmony.
Been there, did this, found the prince on Yahoo, and so have lots of others....
2007-01-20 13:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid of being alone. You know that he will continue to cheat on you sooo what is the problem about leaving. It is not you he wants and you deserve to be happy. so go ahead and leave the cheating bastard.
2007-01-20 13:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mutual understanding n common interest can't be reach at 85%,it's better to leave her if u still don't have ur kid.as cheating is a very bad habit especially between husband n wife cos living together w'd be miserable!
regards.
2007-01-20 13:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋