My husband and i are broke. this is mostly due to his gambling addiction, so I got a full time jog 4 months ago but now we still are having problems with money. I cant keep up with the house work My job is very demanding, 50+ hrs per week we have two ypoung children my husband has not been interested in sex for years....what else can I say....I feel trapped....I love him but i dont really know if he feels the same....he says he loves me but??...Can someone please give me some decent advise??
2007-01-20 13:06:21 · 6 answers · asked by jay d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course he doesn't love you. People who truly love you don't use you. Which is what he is doing. He is using you for a cash cow. How do I know? He is not doing anything to help rectify a situation which he brought about, he is not helping out with kids and housework, he doesn't even give you intimacy.....need I continue?
You and your kids would be much better off without him.....financially and emotionally. Do you really think you're doing your kids a favour by forcing them to stay in a situation where they have an emotionally absent father and a permanently stressed mother?
2007-01-20 13:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think as far as the job goes...you have to do what you have to do to take care of those two children. But as far as your husband goes...have you told him how you feel and tried to talk about the money situation and the stress his gambling is causing you? I would probably let him know how your feeling and try to feel if the relationship is able to be saved. I'm not a big believer in divorce, so remember for better or for worse. I think maybe counseling may need to be sought. But good luck and try to stay positive in the conversations and just let him know how you feel...straight to the point.
2007-01-20 21:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by gatorgrad99_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he love, you....??? well, explain love. The problem here is, he has an addiction, and any addict is already in a relationship, it just isn't with you......
If he won't get some help, at least do the following: Hide your money.... as my mama always said, "Have a stash of cash even if you think you will never need any...." (But you will....)
Sure you feel trapped.... you don't have much of a marriage if we define marriage as respect, admiration, passion and trust.---- the four biggies... the first three are gone in yours, and you can't trust him with $$$..... Passion??? he's probably getting it from someone else..... sorry for you sweetie.... try some counseling... couldn't hurt.
2007-01-20 21:42:31 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should continue to work and get your husband to counseling for his gambling problem.... you also need help and counseling for you and for your marriage....
2007-01-20 21:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be easier if it's just you and your kids. Tell him to hit the road.
2007-01-20 21:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by cubangoddess73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are better off alone.
2007-01-20 21:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋