Hi! I am a pretty decent guy, if i do say so myself. I'm pretty fun to be around, i am apparently pretty good at making people laugh, and i am modest, lol. The problem is people will talk to me if they see me or if i am on there way, but no one actually calls me to hangout or is my really close friend. I just have acquaintences.... umm and a spelling issue? lol but i don't have any real friends. What's wrong with me? I hate to be all dramatic sounding and dumb, but i feel like no one loves me and that i am all alone. Sorry that sounds pretty depressing, but it IS true. pppllleeeaasseee help me! I'm not sure how much longer i can maintain my sanity during this!
2007-01-20 13:03:41 · 15 answers · asked by Travis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I feel the very same way that you do....
I try hard not to depress myself over it but it is really awful and I feel like people use me to their own advantage but they do not really like me.
I do not know what people like us can do.
I guess we can just sit around and hope that soon we will find on who appreciates us for ourselves.
2007-01-20 13:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by ◄☯♫ vanitee of vanitees ♫☯► 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem fine to me......maybe you are coming across to others as a bit needy? Figure out your hobbies and hangout with others that have a common ground. That way a friendship can develop without trying too hard. If your dramatic (which is cool cause i can relate lol) try acting classes.......dont laugh cause it can have a two way benefit 1. make friends and 2. you could be the next movie star then people would be falling over themselves to be your friend lol. Close friends are important and it takes time so get to know heaps of people and have fun. When you have fun your more natural and friendships are developed automatically. *smile*
2007-01-20 21:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by kelstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is too build yourself up. This may sound cheesy, but convince yourself that there is nothing wrong with you. Watch the way other people react toward each other if you have to. Do you think there is anything totally weird about the way you handle yourself? if so, try to be more easy going or whatever. Initiate conversations with people, If you feel a connection with someone you are talking to, ask for their number or some way to get in contact with them. call them first and ask them to go hang out with you. Show them that you are interested in a friendship with that person. Don't wait for them to call you., They may not feel that they can call you by that time and neither of you would call the other. After you call them a few times they will probably call you.
There is nothing wrong with you. You just have to view life and yourself in a different way.
2007-01-20 21:36:28 · answer #3 · answered by Cloey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself these questions.
Do I take the time to really listen to others? OR am I always goofing off, trying to be funny?
Do you show interest in the things others are interested in?
Those two qualities are very imporant if you want to have real friends, not just acquaintences.
I use to talk too much and still do at times, that too turns people off. So if you feel you talk a lot, trying talking less.
2007-01-20 21:26:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mountain Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look on the bright side...at least you have a good level of confidence...you started out your question by complimenting yourself! Good friends are hard to find...be patient...more than likley you'll find them when you are least expecting to. Why not start asking people to do things with you more often? Of course, after you identify the caliber of person that you want to surround yourself with - people that will respect you and give back to the friendship versus just take, take, take. Hang in there!
2007-01-20 21:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by chick33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe people see you as a casual friend because you haven't really reached out to any one. You should ask some one that you like to hang out with to go somewhere - like to a movie. Ask questions about them so you can learn about them and maybe, in time, they will reciprocate.
Friendships take a long time to develop. I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You sound like you could be fun to hang out with.
2007-01-20 21:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by gold 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got the same thing at one point.
I'm painfully shy but I always ask for numbers from new acquaintances. And if I want to get them to know me, i.e there is a connection then I text THEM. Not excessively but if you want someone to jump from acquaintance to friend, you have to make the effort, even if it is just asking what they're doing and that you'd like to join them by text.
2007-01-20 21:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by RedFox 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to find people that are not fake because the people you are describing are acting just that way. You have to find people that are true to themselves as well as you. But it may be good for you to see people for who they truly are because that will show you what type of friend they would be to you. Let it go find you a group of people you feel comfortable with and enjoy spending time with you.
2007-01-20 21:08:59 · answer #8 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Travis i find it really strange that nobody likes u seem like a cool guy, but do expect them to invite to any parties or whatever maybe if u ask them they will invite u otherwise i think they maybe just forgetting about u =)
best of luck..........
2007-01-20 21:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you need to ask some of the people you meet if they want to hang out sounds like your funny and maybe you need to ask them why are you waiting for them to ask you to do some thing pick some one that you think would be fun for you and go do some thing. you need to make things happen for you you cant wait the rest of your life for people you will be sorely disappionted.
2007-01-20 21:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋