my boyfriend propose to me a few days ago on the phone. he couldn't get here. and i'm just curious if i am too young. friends have told me that i am too young, while many have just been happy. plz give me your opinion
2007-01-20 12:59:48 · 23 answers · asked by angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok. some of you thought i was getting married soon, but i'm not. we plan to get married in a couple years. as for my honey who is in fact 17 he couldn't get here because of some stuff i can't say. but he has told maybe 2 of his friends that we're engaged. he does want me to go to college and finish. we won't have kids or try until we've been married 10 years. (his idea) and i agree with it.
2007-01-24 12:32:03 · update #1
I would say that it depends upon the maturity of you both. You are saying that it's going to be a few years and you are going to wait 10 years to have kids and you both agree...to me , that sounds wonderful.
By the way....a long time ago...people got married at like 14!!...as a matter of fact...my ex fiance's grandmother...met the love of her life at 14 and had her first baby at 18 and they were happily married for over 40 years!!
Some people are mature at 17 and some people aren't.
I was very mature at 17 because I was out on my own!! My friend got married at 17 and was a spoiled child..who never had to grow up...she's still married..but has had a lot of trouble growing up!!! She should have experienced life more.
Best luck to you though.
2007-01-26 16:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Starla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really depends on when you guys are planning on getting married. If you plan on getting married by the time your 20 (I'm assuming hes the same age as you) then I guess its okay. BUT... you can't just think that you love each other and want to be together, you have to think about it in the long run too. Would you be able to handle the responsibility of being a wife at 20? Will he be financially stable by then? Will you be able to afford to live alone in an apartment AND go through college/uni? There's a whole lot of factors that go into marriage. You both have to look at this situation objectively, good luck and I hope you don't make any rash decisions.
2007-01-20 21:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not getting married for a few years, and don't plan to have kids for atleast ten years, then why even get engaged. You obviously know that you are too young for marriage and children so why pretend. Engagements don't maintain relationships. At 17 you are not the same person you will be in 5 years. On average people live to be like 80 years old, that's alot of years to be married to someone who might drive you crazy!
2007-01-27 11:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by adondeesta1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is too young. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't you have things you want to do as an individual before you start a lifelong commitment with someone? I am sure you too think seventeen is too young, why else would you be asking this on answers? If you have any doubts at all , it is not the right thing to be doing. good luck and perhaps with a little bit of thought about your future you will make the right decision
2007-01-27 15:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by boo_boobunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 is way too young. You will go through so many changes emotionally and mentally that you will not be the same person you are now 10 years from now. If you and your boyfriend are truly destined to be together, it will happen, just don't jump into this now.
2007-01-20 21:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by jeepy1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to young!!! wait until at least 25, we have all said this is the one for me, it will work wrong, as soon as you hit 21 and start going out you will realize there is so many people out there and temptations that one of you will stray,you will never know if you have the right person until you have met others.
2007-01-27 02:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by kiss17 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are way too young, you don't even know what life is all about yet.
Finish school, go to college, travel a lot, get a career, get your own place, go out with your friends a lot, date a lot.
After you get it all out of your system, then it's time to start thinking about settling down, and by that time you'll be getting into your 30's.
2007-01-20 21:09:40 · answer #7 · answered by cubangoddess73 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your smart to wait to get married and if you plan on waiting to have kids you better get on birth control pills or some type of birth control or now if your doing sex before your married 17 is young but if you both love each other there is no certain age but if your still in shcool it would be best to wait
2007-01-27 09:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think 17's too young, I've known a few people younger than you who've gotten engaged/married.
2007-01-20 21:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by rhinestone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not too young but do not get married til you are at least 18 and make sure he is the right one when you do.
2007-01-20 21:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋