2007-01-20 12:57:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the bad thing about that is .. what if your husband got hurt and could not work.. would you know how and be able to support him and the children that you have together.. what if he died before you .. could you support your self.. if you have never worked outside the home and have no skills it makes it very hard.. what if he leaves you in 15 yrs for a younger women.. those are things to think about .. this is not like it was 30 yrs ago.. and you need to have your own credit.. something you can relie on ..what you need to ask is how many women here let a man support her and what happen when he left her for some one elas or he got to sick or hurt to work.. or he passed away
2007-01-20 15:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you can be a homemaker if you want. It is an honorable profession, and if you want to be a homemaker, good for you!
Just like any other job though, you should be prepared in case it doesn't work out (for whatever reason). While you are "homemaking" do a few classes and work toward a degree, or perhaps write a book of some sort. Just make sure that you, and your family will be taken care of if something happens in the future.
2007-01-20 13:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a homemaker can be and often is a thankless job...homemakers must take care of the home the husband the children (including bear them) and also plan and budget the house hold expenditures.
Housewives don't even make minimum wage...yet they work sometimes 20 or more hours per day taking care of her family.
Yes, there are some homemakers that sit around and watch TV and drag on cigarettes all day....their home looks like it too...but there is nothing easy about being a good homemaker it is a lot of hard work! It is not foolish at all if she is a good one.
2007-01-20 13:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is foolish at all. I think that if a woman is fulfilled by taking care of her home and family, it is something she should never feel ashamed about or afraid of. Raising kids and creating a home is some of the most important work in the world!
However, it does mean she becomes dependent on her partner financially. Men feel honoured to provide for their women like this when the relationship is going well, but if the relationship is not stable, and she has no back-up options (i.e. skills or education so she could get a job if she needed it), she could find herself in a bad spot (of wanting to get out but feeling trapped because of the money).
I would always advocate a woman having the option to support herself if necessary, so that money never becomes a power issue in the relationship. But other than that, every woman who can afford it should enjoy the fact that she has a choice and do what works for her and her family!
2007-01-20 13:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by eccyj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not foolish for a woman to be a homemaker and who want to stay home to raise her kids. It is better that she raise them, rather than having total strangers or putting them in daycare to raise them. We as parents should raise our own kids.
These days woman choose to work because they don't want to be home and are bored. They choose to work because they need the money with both incomes to live and pay bills. Or, they would rather have a "career" rather than be a mom at home and a wife to her husband.
I think it is great to be home when husband gets home. You have the place cleaned, dinner made and everyone is happy!
So it is not foolish at all, women make it foolish by putting their career first before their families.
2007-01-20 13:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not--HOWEVER--I chose to be a "home maker" after I have worked for 20 years of my life. I have a college degree and worked as an accountant and office manager for 5 years and a social worker for 9+ years. I have an education and career to fall back on if anything ever went wrong. I also had a baby at 37, so my husband wanted me to stay home and raise this one--since the only thing I EVER regretted was not staying home and being with my 11 year old when he was younger (until kindergarten). So yes it is ok, however I don't think that a woman should EVER depend solely on a man--I am secure knowing that NO MATTER WHAT I will always be able to take care of me and my kids if anything ever happened to my husband.
2007-01-20 13:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think so. Some people are just born to want to be a homemaker, just like others are born to be doctors. I want to be a stay at home mom with all my heart when I have children, but I can't see how its possible, with all my student loans and my future mortage. Especially because I will probably make more than my husband once I start working.
2007-01-20 13:03:02 · answer #7 · answered by lucky g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really is no right answer here, its a personal decision. One that each family should take all aspects into consideration.Here are some really important aspects to consider:
- If the woman has ever dreamed of having a strong career, or if her dreams were of raising children, and running a home.
- What kind of outside interaction will she involve herself in, in order to feel a part of society.
- Does the man travel alot? (Will she be home alone all day, as well as many nights and weekend?)
- What are the expectations each couple will have for each other. (Some wives expect that the husband "take over" as they have been with the kids all day, while some husbands are not involved at all)
The one thing I would really consider is what back up plans are in place if the couple were to (I know you can't imagine this will ever happen!) split up. I know so many women who deticated their lives to there families, and suddenly find themselves to be single moms with no career options available, and no pension of thier own... Its tragic.
2007-01-20 13:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not foolish I was a house wife for 16 years my husband supported me and I took care of the house and raised my kids I took them where they needed to go like the doctor etc...there was always a parent to go home it pays off because my kids came out very well. And so will your kids Good Luck!
2007-01-20 13:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by TJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know alot of women who are. I am a homemaker my husband said that he would rather me take care of our kids instead of some stranger and take care of the home. Besides that he makes good enough money where we can live off one income.
2007-01-20 13:01:48 · answer #10 · answered by hotmoma1 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋