How do you know when to end a relationship? I have been my fiance for three years, but we have hit a rough period. How do you know what you should stop working for a relationship and give up? I just feel like we are on different wavelengths, and we have possibly grown apart. I don't know when it happened.
(BTW - no one cheated so that is not a concern.)
2007-01-20 12:51:09 · 12 answers · asked by JackieCakes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you can walk the door knowing that you did all you could to make the relationship work. When you can leave with no regrets that perhaps you could have tried harder or gave more. That's not to say you won't have heartaches, pains and second guess your decision. Just be sure you can walk out with a clear conscience knowing you gave it your best.
2007-01-20 13:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kodi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you have a silly relationship. You've been together three years, and still aren't married. Why? An engagement shouldn't last decades, or multiple years. It's supposed to be a relatively short period between dating and marriage. What you have, is simply playing house. Sure, since you are "engaged" you have a steady sex partner, and a reliable date for Saturday night, but it isn't marriage. Since it's an relationship that isn't marriage or singlehood, it certainly will have problems, and the problems inevitably will worsen. Get married, or break up. Poop, or get off the pot.
2007-01-20 21:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is over when one partner decides it is over.
But you had another question in mind too: why is it that you are no longer that interested in your partner?
Is he the confident, self-assured, groomed, affectionate, respectful yet challenging male that attracted you in the first place?
Or is he whipped? Did you dominate him? If he let that happen, then that could be why. If he tried to dominate you, then that could be why. If you two started taking the relationship for granted and stopped doing little romantic things every now and then, stopped growing as individuals within the relationship, then that could be why.
If he went from being smooth to spending the whole day in sweat pants and seeing how loud he can fart in front of you, that could be why. If you disrespected each other enough times, then that could be it.
You have to tell us more for us to tell you anything.
2007-01-20 21:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having problems with her now and not married, then how is it that you two will have a good marriage if the problems now are not solved?
Maybe it is not working because she is waiting for a commitment, or visa versa, isn't that the reason for being engaged?
You may not want to marry someone if you have been having some problems. Maybe it is that you two are not ready to commit to eachother or ready for marriage.
2007-01-20 20:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When is a relationship over? When you no longer feel the desire to be with that person.
2007-01-20 20:54:18 · answer #5 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew mine was over when I couldn't stand being around him anymore. Everything he did annoyed me completely. If you don't want to be with him anymore, move on.
2007-01-20 20:58:28 · answer #6 · answered by gall1959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL A RELATIONSHIP CAN END ANYTIME AND ANYWHERE
SO ALWAYS BE CAREFULL.
AND A REALTIONSHIP IS OVER WHEN THEY '
START IGNOING YOU AND SAY THEY DONT THINK IT
WILL WORK THERE ARE SO MANY WAYS YOU CAN KNOE WHEN A RELATIONSHIP IS OVER ..
JUST WATCH YOU BACK
2007-01-20 20:56:30 · answer #7 · answered by naila boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you both just need some time apart to see if you still love each other. perhaps you both just grew apart and it's noones fault but i think you do need to seperate and see what happins.
2007-01-20 20:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by mama bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, sometimes, its before the relationship began.
or, if u dont feel u want to grow old with that person
2007-01-20 20:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by Desi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and see how he feels, if he wants to work it out, then try.
2007-01-20 20:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋