He's funny and cute, but my parents would never let me date him. Also I'm not sure if it's love or lust. What should I do?
2007-01-20 12:47:46 · 25 answers · asked by Ana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We've known each other for over a year. he's actually a friend of my older brother. We've been tryin to go out, but my brother always has to be there so it's never really been an actual date. I think we really love each other, but I know my parents wouldn't let me go out with him (or any other guy). They've met him before but as my brother's friend and not as MY boyfriend. I think they would take it totally different. What should I do?
2007-01-20 13:05:10 · update #1
Whatever you do, don't go against your parent's especially if you're not sure if it's love or lust. Most of the time it's just lust with us girls or something close to love but I know one thing that's for sure and this is from experiance, don't go against your parent's wishes. It will just make life so much harder and a little more depressing in the long run. You need to have a serious talk with your parent's as if you are being the adult and say something like I would really appriciate it if you would let me go on a date or two with this guy and see if I do really have anything in common with him because I might not but I'd really appriciate it if you would let me find out. Also, let them try to get to know him also afterall they're most likely just trying to keep you safe and protected from all this world brings when it comes to dating, heartbreak, jelousy, frustration, or even the worst things that could happen to a girl because some guys do sometimes turn out to do things we could never expect. If I were you though, I would completely just wait it out, see where things go from the relationship you already do have with him. Hope I helped a little. Good Luck.
2007-01-20 12:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by mda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends until you are old enough to date him. Keep in mind if he is older and you are under 18 you could put him at risk for going to jail and having to register everywhere he goes as a sex offender if you guys have sex. All it would take would be for your parents to press charges for statutory rape. So.... talk to him, be his pal, e-mail etc but keep everything from the neck up. It also keeps you from lying to your parents :-) Is it love or lust? I think if you have to ask it is probably lust but one of my classmates' parents met in 4th grade. If it is meant to be the romance of a century, you'll have a century to enjoy it so go easy and get to know him. By the time you are old enough to date him, you may know and love each other well enough to marry if you work on the friendship side of your relationship. Good luck!
2007-01-20 20:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Wildfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my parents won't let me date either...and I got confused on love or lust too...Just hang around with him as friends a little longer until you find out if its lust or love you have for him. If its lust forget about it but if its love then you have 2 choices. Break it down to your parents over time by your actions or just lie. I slowly broke it down and they actually approve boys a little more. I haven't told them everything but I'm working on it and its going really well!
2007-01-20 20:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know if it's love or lust?-
You THINK you love him?-
If you don't know if it's love or lust, then you don't even know what love is. If you just THINK it's love, then you don't love him. Talk to your parents about dating him. Don't say you love him if you're not even sure if it's love or lust. It's probably just a fling for high school or middle school.
You may be thinking 'Yes, I do know what love is!', but if you can't tell the difference between love and lust, then you don't. Slow down, and don't tell ANYONE (except family) that you love them, until you know what love is!
2007-01-20 22:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are looking out for what they deem your best interest. Remember they have some years on you in this world. Doing what feels good at the time might have some negative consequences that you might not even think about or evaluate now. I would suggest listening to your parents on this one. Be honest with your parents they might surprise you if your open with them.
2007-01-20 21:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by Paul McD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a girl whos parents are really lax and meet him at her house. Or let him sneak in your window :-)
Seriously though, give some consideration to your parents. They have the benefit of experience and not being saturated with teenage hormones.
If you really want to force the issue ask then to either let you date or buy you a vibrator :-)
2007-01-20 20:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! It's your life but you still need to obey what your parents want you to do. I personally would try to keep it on the safe side and ask your parents. Good Luck and Listen to Your Parents
2007-01-20 20:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not say how old you are or why your parents will not let you date him. obviously it;s lust because you cannot love someone until you have spent time with them, no matter what anyone says about love at first sight. you have to spend time with someone before you know how they really are.
2007-01-20 20:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by mama bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definetly a phase you're going through. I tend to say it is lust that manipulates you at this moment. Time will pass and you will see. Don't worry and enjoy everything else.
2007-01-20 20:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by Codrin . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sneak out! Just kidding wait till your parents no longer paying for all your basic needs, then date whom ever you like.
2007-01-20 20:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by zib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋