Yesterday on a night out I was with my friends and two of them really started to annoy me, kept on about my shyness and all that stuff which is a sore point with me. I really like them as friends but because I got drunk when I got home I just wrote a very, VERY angry and insulting message and posted it to their myspaces whilst drunk.
Today I saw it and was shocked at the stuff I wrote and couldn't believe it, it was as if I HATED them and I regret it so much, whilst barely remembering even writing it.
Needless to say the two friends I sent it to sent incredibly unfavourable replies and said they never want to talk to me again +a block delete on myspace and msn, I did apologise as soon as I saw what I'd done ove myspace but the sheer nastiness of the message dispelled the apology.
In addition these two will definitely spread what I've said right round my only friend circle, including this girl I've sort of started going out with.
Any ideas to remedy this bad siuation, fast?
2007-01-20 12:18:32 · 7 answers · asked by RedFox 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No criticising my actual writing/sending of the message please, I've been beating myself over it all day and it's done and gone. I just need to know how to remedy the situation and stop it spilling over to the person I'm dating and my other friends.
2007-01-20 12:20:31 · update #1
We all do something stupid and sadly you managed a wopper. Well it seems you already know them fairly well such as their actual snail mail address so send them each a card and even some gifts to show how stupid you were in the message. Let them know you were drunk and stupid and was just annoyed about being picked on about your shyness, which they were correct about....a little.
This is a sad lesson learned and you may just have to give up on these two friends and try to mend with others you didnt send messages to.
2007-01-20 12:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by spider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to wait this one out. If you're all truly friends you'll find a way to have a convo about it and get passed it. If you want to send them another message let them know you're very sensitive about what they were teasing you about but you keep it to yourself. But them teasing you all night was way too much for you and you felt hurt so you wanted to hurt them back just as much. But you regret doing it in that matter and should have just talked to them at that moment or the next day. Then give them some time come around or learn to live without them. BUT something to think about..you don't say what you don't mean when you're drunk you're just more likely to say something emotional or mean because you don't have the same defenses as you when you're sober. It's clear no one thinks anyone is perfect and ya'll need to accept it and be friends. HAVE FUN!
2007-01-20 12:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is, when we drink, we tend to become uninhibited and do things we wouldn't normally do sober, and say things we wouldn't normally say sober. Your true feelings tend to surface when the senses are altered. You need to re-evaluate your relationship with your friends and look deep inside yourself. Do you >really< like these friends of yours, or are you just going through the motions? Are you truly sorry that you wrote the terrible things you wrote? If you are, you need to apologize IN PERSON ..to these friends of yours. If you can delete the message on MySpace, try to do that. Otherwise, you better don the knee-pads, because you're going to have to do some serious apologizing and begging for forgiveness. Good luck, hon.
2007-01-20 12:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's obtainable in some situations, yet you won't be as close as with another acquaintances. a woman that i grow to be with 8 years and that i observed one yet another a pair situations a 12 months, and now are not in touch. yet a woman that I purely dated a month, i finished up being acquaintances with for 4 years. We have been the two consistently somewhat jealous whilst the different one went out with somebody, yet we merely joked approximately it. My ex-spouse, who left some years in the past, she'd call as quickly as each and every 6 to eight weeks for a on a similar time as, now even much less. So, the friendships won't be the on a regular basis one's, yet there are a number of varieties of friendships. maximum of all, remarkable after the wear and tear up is the toughest. extraordinarily if one left the different. the single left in many situations has the greater solid time merely being acquaintances. in case you the two comply with section, then you definately are transforming into the skill to be greater powerful acquaintances. yet, like I mentioned, remarkable after the wear and tear up you will nonetheless be emotionally linked... After some months, it may desire to be greater powerful. each and every subject is diverse... sturdy luck.
2016-11-25 22:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeas you can make up with them.
You need to talk to them.
Good Luck
2007-01-20 12:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible but if they dont accept they"re not ur real friends
2007-01-20 12:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by valy718 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make up with me
2007-01-20 13:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by maria W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋