2007-01-20 11:59:38 · 35 answers · asked by Topofthepops 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Nobody can afford a baby if they actually try and budget for one
Tear up the budget, grab your fella, and ride him bareback until dawn. you'll find the money somewhere
2007-01-20 12:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 6⤋
How old are you? Where are you at in your life? What other big changes do you have coming up? What support systems do you have in place (husband, significant other, family, etc.)?
Financially, I don't know if any time is ever perfect. But I think you should be comfortable at the very least. Anyone can make it work, but it's definitely easier and less stressful if you aren't struggling to make ends meet yourself.
Stability in other areas of your life can also be an important factor. Big changes, like starting or finishing school, moving, changing jobs or starting a new one, etc., are often enough stress on their own, without adding in a pregnancy and a baby.
The support systems you have in place are also important, as they will be the ones helping you through the worst of the pregnancy (are you ready for the possibility of three or four straight months of morning sickness?) and the worst of the child-rearing (will your mom babysit for you when you need a break?). How does your husband, boyfriend, significant other, or potential father of the baby feel?
Consider why you want a baby. Is it selfish reasons, like you want someone to love you? Because when they are crying for hours on end, it certainly doesn't feel like you are loved! :)
2007-01-20 12:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by lrachelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldnt be fair to bring a child into the world if you really are not able to provide for it financially but if you want a baby that much then you should sit and work out all your finances and see if there are any cut backs or changes you could make to allow you to have more money and then see when it would be a reasonable time to plan a child. Aslong as a child has the essentials of a warm, clean house with clothing and food and most importantly love then there is no reason for you not to have a child. Holidays and expensive toys are luxuries although I know that as parents we like to give our kids as much as we can but sometimes its not possible and really not giving your child these things doesnt make you a bad parent. I wish you luck and hope that you have the family you want.
2007-01-20 21:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Its nice to see that your thinking about it and dont want to bring children in to your world whilst you have no money, but..... if you wait you might wait forever.
I have two children, 3 yr old and an 8 month old and i can say that me and my partner couldn't afford it! But i would never change what i have!
When i was pregnant with both of mine, i brought everything i needed, i was buying nappies every week for months(all different sizes), days outs can be priceless with children, clothes-depends where you shop! etc,etc,etc
Only my partner works now (6 days a week aswell) , but you get child benefit(uk) which is for baby!!!!!
We struggle some months but i just look at my kiddies and am so proud.
Good Luck whatever you decide
2007-01-24 10:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by cgiggler3010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only those women who could afford a Baby had been like you, the Human Race would have died out long ago!
2007-01-20 20:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, life is not fair. I was living on a tight budget for a LONG time that is why I was in my 30s when I became a mom. Now that I am older and more financially stable I can enjoy life with a kiddo and give him all the things he wants and needs. Wait until you feel more stable, you won't regret it.
2007-01-20 12:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by mom-knows-best 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be less fair to the baby you want. At least you realize that you can't afford it instead of asking people to support you.
If you need your baby fill maybe you can volunteer your time at a hospital with a pediatric unit. It is fun and rewarding and you will get a good "baby fix" that way.
2007-01-20 12:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hiya!
Im a mum of a 2 year old, and some months me and my partner have had to struggle so we can get by, but we do! :)
i dont think there is a right or wrong time to have a baby
if you and your parnter want a baby, i would suggest you go for it, you will get by and you will be okay :) lifes too short!!
2007-01-20 22:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at the time i couldn't afford my two,that didn't even enter my head i wanted children to full fill my life,but i managed they are now 18 and 20 very well behaved,never been in trouble, never did drugs, they are my life i would'nt be without them
and now my daughter is having a baby and i cant wait
if you want a baby go for it
2007-01-20 13:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥™Tia™♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most there is never a time when they can afford a baby but they still have them, its a worry but nearly all survive.
What is more important is are you prepared to give up your time and patience for a baby.
2007-01-20 12:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you have finally figured out the lesson of life, it is never fair.
Remember, Money doesn't buy love or happiness, but you will need a little for diapers.
2007-01-20 12:15:24 · answer #11 · answered by sunny_day_grl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋