doing this since he was very small, I am a teacher and look forward to my weekends. I have 2 son 17 and 7. they both enjoy his company, lately I been drain and my husband is working over night. he need his sleep as well, as you know with kids in the house it hard to get a restful sleep. I think that he would have out grow this stage but so far he has not, every Friday he want to come over and stay til Sunday evening. with kids of my own, working as a teacher and running errand got me burn out. I dont want to be selfish but I want to get a break sometime. He knows I love him dearly, Do you think I being selfish?
2007-01-20 11:39:29 · 8 answers · asked by birdsdafly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are not being selfish.Everyone needs time to themselves.I'm sure if you sit down and talk to him about it he will understand.
2007-01-20 11:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all!!!! I think his parents are being selfish andenjoying their weekends!!! Its time you take a stand. There is such a thing as tough love and i know that is what this would be for you. But i allowed these things to happen at my house for sooooooo long that unfortunately i had a stroke because of stress and no rest!! Everyone needs their own time to theirselves , especially families, i do understand that he is your nehew and iyou love him dearly just as i love my neices and nephews , but you really need a break from the sounds of it.......Ask if him andyour children can go over there and spend the night once or just try to take turns as to every other weekend , but you really need to do something and quick because from the sounds of it you may end up the way i did and i dont wish that on anyone... Please take care of yourself and try your best to try to work out a different arrangement for at least a couple of months or so.....God Bless YOU you sound like a really great person!!!!!! Good Luck to you also!!
2007-01-20 19:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by littleEfan25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being selfish your are just being human. But you must not be to harsh with him if you want him to stop coming over so much explain to him that he can come over every other weekend so you and hubby can get some rest. It's not something he is going to like to hear since your home has been his getaway since he was younger or allow your boys to go spend the week with him.
2007-01-20 19:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being selfish is often a good thing in spite of the bad reputation it gets. try to see if you can't ship your kids to his house now and then for the weekends and when they do stay at your place establish things like noise levels you permit or games they can play on the computer to keep the noise level down.
2007-01-20 19:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no hun your not, you know Kids do not understand the pressure's adult's face in todays world, I'de just sit him down and let him know you love having him there, but you need time with just Your Family to. i'm sure he'll understand
2007-01-20 19:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i don't think you are being selfish. everyone needs time now and then.
i would talk to his parents and ask if they could keep it to once a month and talk to him about it. maybe you could hype up that one weekend so he still knows he's welcome and has something to look forward to!
2007-01-20 19:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send your boys to his house for a weekend
2007-01-20 19:42:20 · answer #7 · answered by twysty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he does it cause u say yes and u have no disapline.
2007-01-20 19:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋