Does anyone know of camps I can send my child to in order to make her normal again? She told me she likes girls a week ago, and it sent me into shock, and I really want her back, but I'm not sure what to search for. Help would be most appreciated.
2007-01-20 11:29:14 · 18 answers · asked by im_hotter_than_you 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For those who have referred to my orientation, you should know that this is my daughter's account. After discovering that she has feelings toward the same sex, I am monitoring what she has said. No further actions of homosexuality shall be happening in this household.
2007-01-22 08:21:16 · update #1
My very dear Madame, there are such camps but I wouldn't recommend using them. You wouldn't like the way your daughter would be when she came back from them; they'll literally suck the life out of her. I know it is a leap of Faith for you to make, but I would counsel you to learn to simply just Love your daughter. Please don't use such Big Brother meathods to make her "change" forceably. You won't like the results even though those results will fit your religion. Blessings on both you and your child.
2007-01-20 13:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she never was "normal" to begin with. You likely won't get the child you thought existed back. If she were sent to such a camp, they would likely do more harm then good. Is she suddenly less of a person now that you know she is into girls? She doesn't have to change because you are having a hard time accepting who she is. Would you want your child to get married to a man to try to act like she isn't into girls? Unless she is bisexually, both her and the man would be hurt. She would be hurt for faking a relationship and the man would be hurt for finding out the truth.
Surely she didn't choose to like girls just to get a reaction out of you. Accepting her for who she is and helping her deal with any problems related to this sure go a long way in helping her.
2007-01-20 11:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me reiterate what other people have said that these camps do more harm than good. And there is nothing wrong with your daughter. I repeat, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR DAUGHTER. The word normal is what the ignorant use to describe what they're only willing to understand.
I'm not saying these words to attack you, but if you send our daughter to these camps or any other types of "conversion therapy", you not only might but WILL cause your daughter enough psychological damage to last her the rest of her life.
What I recommend instead that will benefit the both of you in a much better way is to join PFLAG, or Parents, Family and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. You can go on the website (http://www.pflag.org) to find a chapter in your area. This organization has done wonders for children who have come out of the closet and acknowledged their sexuality, as well as parents who are trying to cope with their children's sexual orientation. They will do everything from giving you and your daughter a list of books to recommend places of worship that are GLBT-friendly. In fact, many PFLAG chapters have meetings in churches.
I really hope you make the decision to have both you and your daughter go to a PFLAG meeting instead of your idea. It may be awkward at first to go to a meeting and dish out both your life stories, but both of you will be much the better for it in the long run.
2007-01-20 12:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by Megosophy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1) no such thing exists, unless you consider it in the sense of having some priests pour boiling water over your child all while yelling christian chants at her is a way to bring her back.
2) She's never really gone. You've never "lost" her therefore their is no way to get her "back" because you still have her. You don't need camp and she is already normal. Show her Peace, Love, and Understanding.
3) Give her the Freedom of Choice
(Omg i just quoted APC two times wow)
2007-01-20 11:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Love Panda 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Looking for a death camp? They induce suicide; if you think you "want your daughter back" now, wait till she's offed herself because of some hatefest you sent her to.
You should both also know full well that the people who run the camps don't claim to change sexual orientation; only sexual behavior. If your daughter isn't sexually active, then, they aren't going to change anything about her.
2007-01-20 12:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Atropis 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! U have to be the worst mother in the world. Just because she likes girls doesnt mean she has a problem!! You want to send her to a coversion camp so she can be what YOU want her to be, not what SHE really is. Instead, you should support her and accept her the way she is. And you call yourself a mother!!!
2007-01-20 12:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by Xavier 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I regret to inform you, but there's no way to "get your daughter back" In order to keep your relationship intact, you really need to open your mind an accept the fact that she is gay. This does not change her as a person, and if you try to change her, you will just make her upset. For her sake and yours, please treat her the same as you did before she came out.
2007-01-20 13:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by lazerybyl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie "But I'm a Cheerleader." That might give you some good ideas about these kind of camps. If that doesn't work, watch "Saved."
2007-01-20 12:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jimmy 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think its you who needs to go to a camp. It may be a phase she goes through or she may be gay but its something you are going to have to accept if you want her to be a part of your life in the future. You can`t brainwash someone out of how they are made up!
2007-01-20 11:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Scott T 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
A good friend of mine was gay, I accepted him. but his parents did not. they kept him in a "pray the gay away" camp. for 3 years. when he returned. he was full of rage. i tried to talk to him. but he wouldn't listen. he told me that they had beaten him, and used electro-shock therapy on his genitals to "make him straight."
when i found out what happened, I could not believe it. apparently he had invited his mom and dad over to celebrate his "straightness" he shot and killed both of them. then killed himself.
this story still makes me cry thinking about it. mostly because if his parents had just loved him for what he was. it all could've been avoided. but now they are all dead. and i don't blame him. I blame, his parents. do you love your child? if you do, you will love him/her for who they are. if you send him/her to those places, best case scenario, he/she will kill them self. worst case scenario, he/she will take you with them
2015-02-03 20:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by brian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋