smaching is an effective way of chastising children discuss?

Answer 1

yuppers. smack a day keeps the cops away.

Answer 2

did any one notice how children's behaviour has gone down hill since it`s been discouraged ,Theres a world of difference between smacked and beaten its natures way of learning the very young
Even animals give their young a small bite or a push to learn them what safe and acceptable
but it only works when they are small
i think it must be like aversion therapy where their brain links unacceptable behaviour with something unpleasant
but it has to be when they are caught being naughty ,after is no use either
my kids are 8 and 10 now, and i never even really need to tell them off anymore the only time they might misbehave is in a new situation and now i only have to explain why its wrong and they don`t do it again There is no shouting or punishment in my house and there hasn`t been for years .because good behaviour is not a decision it comes natural to them like manners and sharing
but like i said a sharp smack is one thing .I could never beat up a child that's being cruel and a bully and would do a lot more harm than good

Answer 3

I wouldn't call it "smaching" or smacking or whacking, and corporal punishment shouldn't take place in public such as the grocery or in church unless restraint is necessary. However, there use to be public canings, hangings, stocks, whippings, etc. Quite a crime deterrant for what they called fools and the application of stripes on their backs to teach them wisdom. Nevertheless, (after much study and consideration) I think corporal punishment should be the absolute last resort and that a loving prayerful patient unprovoking parent who is creative in the art of distraction and not with only the prideful intent of being in control of the child (the child shouldn't control the parent though), can use it but sparingly and calmly in private preferably once the child is old enough to communicate with and understand and remember their offenses. You pray with them and talk to them before giving say three swats on a fully clothed backside and some will debate that as being inappropriate. I think the corporal punishment is both misinterpreted and over spiritualized as a whole.
On the other hand, a lack of punishment will cause a disrespect of the law, of parental authority, contribute to parenticide possibly, and leaves the child without any sense of boundaries, conscience or ability to make wise moral choices. (Just ask your local law enforcement if they think an old fashioned spanking would resolve some of the problems they face with youth, even those who attack their own parents physically.) On the other extreme, those who hide behind religion and constantly use physical punishments with constant threats and telling the child how bad and sinful they are will create little women who will marry abusers and little men who will abuse women and be full of anger and continue this cycle indefinitely in some form or another resurrected. There's a correct balance to everything. Having been married to an abuser for years, I understand that neglect or permissiveness is as much a form of abuse as constant or angry or too hard spankings where anything that was handy was used from razor straps to belts, etc. However, a rebellious toddler child will not understand a time out very well but a last resort of a slap on the leg or hand (if the child is not sickly, diseased, disabled, mentally challenged, etc.) is appropriate with a firm "No". I hate to see a child hitting others, screaming bloody murder in the store to buy candy or toys, hitting their parents, or being little unruly devils who think the world revolves around them and learn they can manipulate, threaten or demand to get their way in life and if that doesn't work they might just steal it as it promotes laziness and ingratitude to spoil a child too much. They need to know and understand that there are consequences for not choosing to stay within their boundaries when they are told "No" because if they don't learn, it could endanger their very lives or lead to destructive behaviors in adulthood.
The best thing is to show love and calmness by example as a parent, pray for grace and wisdom, and be as much like the heavenly Father as possible while training them up the way they should go. This training may or may not include physical punishment as much as it includes instructing them in the ways of the Lord and His laws. If they are told "No, don't touch that stove." and they touch it, they learn the consequences of getting blistered. Other disobediences could lead to death such as drowning in a pool they were told to stay away from, staying out of the street, saying "No" to getting in cars or taking candy from strangers. You will do more harm to a child by not enforcing boundaries lovingly than not. Again, a pure careful controlled consistent balance and don't sanctimoniously hide your own temper behind the chastisement. Provoking children to wrath until they are discouraged is just as wrong as them being disobedient.

Answer 4

smacking and caning at school never hurt anyone and you never done things wrong again but there is a differants as one person has said tapping a child when they are wrong yes, smacking a child as i have seen really bad then this is child abuse and that is all you can call it.
If caning was brought back into schools there would not be so many yobs on the streets.
like anything if easing up takes place things go amock.

Answer 5

Beating a child is not an effetive way to discipline a child. A smack for really dangerous things that a child may do ie cross the road or putting fingers in plugs or something, then a little smack to stun them to understand that that is dangerous will do no harm..

Answer 6

I presume you mean in the wider sense, controlling behaviour, rather than making 'chaste'?

It's an unfortunate fact of living things - that violence can be used to get anyone to do or not to do anything, otherwise it would have gone extinct long ago.

Trouble is, it closes minds and replicates at a frightening rate.

Answer 7

I've never 'smached' a child. How does one go about this?

Answer 8

NO. all it does is tell the child that you are bigger then him/her and that is the reason why you can have your way.
nor is mental punishment a good think like sulking or ignoring. the tough part is to actually spend time and explain and accept that it is a young human. good luck

Answer 9

It all depends. There's a big difference between smacking a child and beating him/her. With small children who don't have much of a vocabulary yet, I think it's OK to smack them. When they get older there are other means which will work.

Answer 10

Smacking teaches children nothing apart from the physical violence is a good way to solve things. If smacking worked, then why do parents have to keep doing it? I've never heard of a child being smacked and then never re offened.

Answer 11

You shouldnt smack children, smacking and shouting does not help as your child will not listen to what you are saying, its best to tell them off in a firm voice, telling them what they have done wrong and why its wrong.
When my children are naughty - i give them a warning and tell them if they ignore that warning - i will take a toy away or part of their pocket money etc and always carry it through.